After my last thread i decided that i couldn't decide where to place difficult child, as i have no idea whether bio mom or an institution is better. so i decided to let CAS decide since they have more information and more experience dealing with both difficult child-mom and the institutions. they decided that since difficult child-bio-mom is 'stable' on her methadone that she was the best option which was quite a surprise to me. they said she will have a lot of help forced on her, and daily check ins with the cas office where she lives. so she is coming on the 4th to start the process of integrating him into her life. he is already starting his plan to manipulate her....... he started off crying and saying 'i missed you so much, how could you leave me all this time' and of course that hits her straight in the heart and she is now ready to give him anything he could ever want. yet in reality, she hasn't seen him since he was a tiny baby. he doesn't remember her, all he knows about her is what i have told him. oh well. let the games begin, i suppose.