Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Update on Difficult Child
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 661905" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Huh. What an interesting series of responses, Child! I am thrown off base by the kind support for your son's girlfriend.</p><p></p><p>Because as I look back on Difficult Child's life, and the dangerous or troubled times of my other kids, what I see is that it is who they choose to hang out with that matters. Who they choose as their friends and peer group and partners is what matters, not where you sent them to school or summer camp or how many family dinners you had together. So like you, I have been hoping your son would separate from his girlfriend, and as I read your post I thought "I hope this is it, that he finally breaks free"</p><p>But I can see the merit in what Lucy says, and Pasa says, and Alb says. (Yay, Lucy and Alb are here!)</p><p></p><p>Overall I think I fall were Insane does...that your son doesn't really have his own oxygen mask on, and yet...maybe it will bring you some peace to hear what the others say. Maybe her crazy, her drama, is a thing that he can see through clearly, that he loves the woman underneath, and will support her through those other things. That happens. That makes him a better man than I am a parent to my own Difficult Child...but it could be so. Or maybe it is so for now, today, or maybe it was only so yestarday and now it is over, or maybe it will be so for a few more weeks or years and then he will move on...having loved and learned.</p><p></p><p>I went out with the same guy for 6 years in my 20's. MOved from New York to LA to NY to Boston with him. 6 years. I'm sure my mom despaired (he smoked, was depressed and critical. Why, Echo, why??) And then..I stopped going out with him. My best friend flew into town, we packed up my stuff in trash bags, and I moved across the river. Never looked back. Not once. </p><p></p><p>We never know the end till it is over, do we?</p><p></p><p>Maybe your son is learning and growing in this relationship.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you, Child. Thank you for letting us know what is going on in your heart and mind.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 661905, member: 17269"] Huh. What an interesting series of responses, Child! I am thrown off base by the kind support for your son's girlfriend. Because as I look back on Difficult Child's life, and the dangerous or troubled times of my other kids, what I see is that it is who they choose to hang out with that matters. Who they choose as their friends and peer group and partners is what matters, not where you sent them to school or summer camp or how many family dinners you had together. So like you, I have been hoping your son would separate from his girlfriend, and as I read your post I thought "I hope this is it, that he finally breaks free" But I can see the merit in what Lucy says, and Pasa says, and Alb says. (Yay, Lucy and Alb are here!) Overall I think I fall were Insane does...that your son doesn't really have his own oxygen mask on, and yet...maybe it will bring you some peace to hear what the others say. Maybe her crazy, her drama, is a thing that he can see through clearly, that he loves the woman underneath, and will support her through those other things. That happens. That makes him a better man than I am a parent to my own Difficult Child...but it could be so. Or maybe it is so for now, today, or maybe it was only so yestarday and now it is over, or maybe it will be so for a few more weeks or years and then he will move on...having loved and learned. I went out with the same guy for 6 years in my 20's. MOved from New York to LA to NY to Boston with him. 6 years. I'm sure my mom despaired (he smoked, was depressed and critical. Why, Echo, why??) And then..I stopped going out with him. My best friend flew into town, we packed up my stuff in trash bags, and I moved across the river. Never looked back. Not once. We never know the end till it is over, do we? Maybe your son is learning and growing in this relationship. Hugs to you, Child. Thank you for letting us know what is going on in your heart and mind. Echo [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Update on Difficult Child
Top