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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 677117" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Pas, we did not adopt him until he was six and he had a cultural change on top of it. He spent six years in an orphanage in another country. I can only imagine his fear and confusion. I still love him, but I understand his actions too. There is no animosity. We talk a little now since the accident. He is like a stranger though. I am not sure seeing him would be a good thing. My family is so stable now and Goneboy is unpredictable and I guard my heart carefully. He is still very distant, and that is how he has always been, but he can't help it.</p><p></p><p>He has attachment disorder.</p><p></p><p>Ex does not want to accept it, but he is starting to get it. He never did like how Goneboy treated me or Bart or Princess so he wasn't completely blind. Now it's so obvious that even the blind can see. And, yes, it was very hurtful for a while, but we knew the risk of adopting an older child...(sigh). We had heard stories. Of course, we didn't think it would happen to us (bigger sigh). It is very hard for an older child to truly feel a part of a family. It happens, but it is more rare than the opposite.</p><p></p><p>Thanks f or your kindness.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 677117, member: 1550"] Pas, we did not adopt him until he was six and he had a cultural change on top of it. He spent six years in an orphanage in another country. I can only imagine his fear and confusion. I still love him, but I understand his actions too. There is no animosity. We talk a little now since the accident. He is like a stranger though. I am not sure seeing him would be a good thing. My family is so stable now and Goneboy is unpredictable and I guard my heart carefully. He is still very distant, and that is how he has always been, but he can't help it. He has attachment disorder. Ex does not want to accept it, but he is starting to get it. He never did like how Goneboy treated me or Bart or Princess so he wasn't completely blind. Now it's so obvious that even the blind can see. And, yes, it was very hurtful for a while, but we knew the risk of adopting an older child...(sigh). We had heard stories. Of course, we didn't think it would happen to us (bigger sigh). It is very hard for an older child to truly feel a part of a family. It happens, but it is more rare than the opposite. Thanks f or your kindness. [/QUOTE]
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