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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 677122" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Pas, so do I. That's why we adopted him. We wanted to give a home to some child who didn't have one. And few adopters want anything but infants. But sometimes it's too late for an older child to be able to bond with his new family.</p><p></p><p>He did do well here in the U.S. He is very financially successful and loves his wife and kids. But we had had many conversations when he was growing up, mostly in his teens, and he would say something was wrong with him...he could not love us as his parents. And it did bother him. I'm not surprised he had this problem as adults let him down in his formative years. He was able to bond with peers, and peers were his family for six years. He had caregivers who came and went and never bothered to hug or love him.</p><p></p><p>I have no bad feelings toward him. He did the best he could, as did we. He is extremely bright and was always aware that he did not have the same feelings that other kids had. I can't blame him for his terrible start.</p><p></p><p>It is sad that any child has to spend his early years in a cold orphanage. He was fed and clothed and educated, but there was no one adult who cared for him. Some of the kids DID have adults who sponsored them and took them on outings and on holidays and sleepovers, but Goneboy did not have a sponsor. Even with sponsors, the majority of kids who came about the same time as Goneboy are doing much worse than he is. At least he is responsible and has not broken the law.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 677122, member: 1550"] Pas, so do I. That's why we adopted him. We wanted to give a home to some child who didn't have one. And few adopters want anything but infants. But sometimes it's too late for an older child to be able to bond with his new family. He did do well here in the U.S. He is very financially successful and loves his wife and kids. But we had had many conversations when he was growing up, mostly in his teens, and he would say something was wrong with him...he could not love us as his parents. And it did bother him. I'm not surprised he had this problem as adults let him down in his formative years. He was able to bond with peers, and peers were his family for six years. He had caregivers who came and went and never bothered to hug or love him. I have no bad feelings toward him. He did the best he could, as did we. He is extremely bright and was always aware that he did not have the same feelings that other kids had. I can't blame him for his terrible start. It is sad that any child has to spend his early years in a cold orphanage. He was fed and clothed and educated, but there was no one adult who cared for him. Some of the kids DID have adults who sponsored them and took them on outings and on holidays and sleepovers, but Goneboy did not have a sponsor. Even with sponsors, the majority of kids who came about the same time as Goneboy are doing much worse than he is. At least he is responsible and has not broken the law. [/QUOTE]
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