Not the best of news....husband is now on DNR. ICU specialist approached me on Tuesday & we had a long discussion on the short term & long term outcomes. It's the next appropriate step. Additionally, there will be a ethics mtg to discuss the next treatment steps for husband. He's not responding well to various & sundries of his treatments. He's not waking enough to breath on his own so is still on the vent. husband has not been conscience since the day he was admitted to the hospital. The MDs are no longer aggressively treating husband. It's now become a quality of life issue. I've made husband's wishes known (he didn't have a living will). Again, one of the hardest most distressing discussions in my life. husband's employer has been wonderful. He worked up until the day he entered the hospital. His HR rep has been in contact with me everyday since I've contacted her, including Christmas day. They've helped me with all the paperwork needed for short term disability & possible long term if it comes to that. (They really don't know much about husband's illness & don't want to know ~ just that he's gravely ill.) Explaining this to the tweedles has been an arduous task. The concept of life support & death are beyond their comprehension & emotional ability right now. I had to call out crisis team for kt the other night. The MDs tried to explain to the tweedles the affect of husband's illness/addiction had on his mind over the last 3 months ~ his outbursts, anger & scary behaviors. I was so glad this gentleman took the time with kt & wm & was so gentle. I appreciate your support for my little family....your combined strength & prayers are the only thing holding me up at this time. Mods if you feel this isn't an appropriate post feel free to delete or edit it as you see fit. I wasn't sure how to go about this & yet have had so many people wanting to know. I'm in over my head.