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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 651549" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Hi Malika!</p><p></p><p>I recently wrote something about our Special Education experiences with Ache (my new board name for my oldest.) He had socially and behaviourally tough time at school from the beginning. When truancy and running away from school started to become a problem both aides (didn't really work) and Special Education class was tried. The special class was within mainstream school (not closest to us, but still rather close) and kids did interact also with mainstream kids. Class size was small with Special Education teacher and aide and it was geared for ADHD and autistic children. However during the time all the other kids were autistic and much more affected than we expected. Ache is academically gifted and he really didn't get the challenge he needed even though it was normal curriculum in theory (in reality exams were easier etc.) Ache also copied lots of stereotypical autistic behaviours from others and basically changed to behave like much more special needs kid than before that semester. Seemed to forget many of his hard worked social skills and was not able to keep up socially with typical peers in sports etc. at all any more. Those were the reasons we withdrew him from the class and put him back to his old mainstream class. With him that was probably academically sound decision. It also most likely helped him become higher functioning person. However I'm not sure, if it made him happier person. That one semester at special class was only time he was happy to go to school ever. Maybe if he would had stayed there, lots of emotional damage would had been avoided. But again, I'm quite sure he would not have a life he has now, but very different life, if he would had stayed. Then again, while high functioning Ache certainly isn't happy or content person. I do second guess that choice now.</p><p></p><p>Of course Ache and J, while they seem to have some similarities, are very different people with different strengths and challenges. But I would encourage you to think not only academics and behaviour but also his happiness. If he is not happy at school, if he feels like he is failing, if his peer relationships are not good, it is just not working out for him. Keeping up with typical peers can be such a struggle, that it takes everything he has. If he feels that he is worse than others, it is very difficult for his self esteem. Could it be a working compromise for J, that he would be at Special Education at school (and not always feel like slowest and one in trouble) and interact with typical peers in hobbies and stay in tune with them that way?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 651549, member: 14557"] Hi Malika! I recently wrote something about our Special Education experiences with Ache (my new board name for my oldest.) He had socially and behaviourally tough time at school from the beginning. When truancy and running away from school started to become a problem both aides (didn't really work) and Special Education class was tried. The special class was within mainstream school (not closest to us, but still rather close) and kids did interact also with mainstream kids. Class size was small with Special Education teacher and aide and it was geared for ADHD and autistic children. However during the time all the other kids were autistic and much more affected than we expected. Ache is academically gifted and he really didn't get the challenge he needed even though it was normal curriculum in theory (in reality exams were easier etc.) Ache also copied lots of stereotypical autistic behaviours from others and basically changed to behave like much more special needs kid than before that semester. Seemed to forget many of his hard worked social skills and was not able to keep up socially with typical peers in sports etc. at all any more. Those were the reasons we withdrew him from the class and put him back to his old mainstream class. With him that was probably academically sound decision. It also most likely helped him become higher functioning person. However I'm not sure, if it made him happier person. That one semester at special class was only time he was happy to go to school ever. Maybe if he would had stayed there, lots of emotional damage would had been avoided. But again, I'm quite sure he would not have a life he has now, but very different life, if he would had stayed. Then again, while high functioning Ache certainly isn't happy or content person. I do second guess that choice now. Of course Ache and J, while they seem to have some similarities, are very different people with different strengths and challenges. But I would encourage you to think not only academics and behaviour but also his happiness. If he is not happy at school, if he feels like he is failing, if his peer relationships are not good, it is just not working out for him. Keeping up with typical peers can be such a struggle, that it takes everything he has. If he feels that he is worse than others, it is very difficult for his self esteem. Could it be a working compromise for J, that he would be at Special Education at school (and not always feel like slowest and one in trouble) and interact with typical peers in hobbies and stay in tune with them that way? [/QUOTE]
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