At the beginning of this term, M's girlfriend had kicked him out. We saw him at Christmas and he had a tale of woe about a professor at Community College who was not using the college's web server and M's assignments had gotten to him late because of it and he might have to drop the class and "it's not my fault!!!" I gave him the "Hmm... is that so? That's too bad." Because after all, it's never his fault. We haven't heard a lot from him lately. A few phone calls here and there. Which is a lot more than we heard from him in the four preceding years. But I made sure to invite him to his dad's B-Day bash next month. I hadn't heard back from him until yesterday. He says he is still sleeping on his friend's couch. (It's not the streets.) His friend's mother had a stroke recently and he has been helping to take care of her. (He's not the caretaker I'd choose, but it's more about keeping her from wandering than daily living needs.) Another family member has moved in with them so he has less of that responsibility. (Phew!) And he was behind in one of his classes - 20 assignments late - (shades of junior high and high school) but he sent them in to the professor and he's not even getting marked down for not being timely so he's entirely happy! Good! I'm not sure if it's the same class/professor. But, he got himself into a jam, and he worked it out on his own. And most importantly, he didn't run away from it. He is going to come to his dad's party. He will help us set up and take down after. L, on the other hand, is going to visit her dad's family in CA and won't be available. It was pre-arranged and her dad is paying for it so I don't mind. I'm just not sure how we are going to get M to and from the party, as I was hoping she would do it... I think he lives near husband's brother and wife, so maybe that will work out. So, all in all, another step on the "You're an adult, keep in touch" road.