Update on mom, etc.

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by hearts and roses, Dec 6, 2007.

  1. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    I had a really and truly nice chat about mom with my loco sister today. It just went so well and we agreed on everything.

    My sister who lives nearest to mom contacted the Dept od Aging in PA and set up an appointment for mom with a caseworker along with an appointment with her DR for a full physical - I still insist she should be seen by a gerontologist, so I think my sister will ask DR for a recommendation.

    She is going to speak with the DR first without my mom so she can list out the issues we're seeing. Since mom is already in "the system" and receiving benefits, once the mental health assessment is completed we should have a clearer picture of what level of care she is eligible for.

    Right off the bat we already know that she will be eligible for in home care from an aide who will do light housekeeping, help her bathe and dress, and check her medications - we need this to be daily. They also said she's eligible for Meals on Wheels, which I suggested a year ago. She's only eligible for 3-4 days/week, so we will have to supplement with a food service company for the remaining days.

    Sister & I discussed how we need to do this step by step and I can't tell you how relieved I am that loco sister and I were able to have a coherent conversation and agree on every point. Amazing!
  2. HereWeGoAgain

    HereWeGoAgain Grandpa

    That's great news, Jo.

    Incidentally, my mom volunteers for Meals on Wheels.
  3. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    Prayers answered!

    You can also get transportation to and from appts for your Mom.
  4. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Wow! That's great!
    I hope it sticks. (Sorry ... that's me, always waiting for the other shoe to drop.)
  5. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member

    Jo, that is wonderful news!

  6. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    Great job, Jo! Using the noodle to get the right resourses!

    Well done!


  7. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    That's great news. I'm sure it comes as a huge relief to you to have sis cooperating.


  8. flutterbee

    flutterbee Guest

    Jo -

    This has to be such a huge relief for you. I'm glad that your mom will, at the very least, be getting the services you mentioned.
  9. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    That sounds hopeful and comforting, Jo. Is brother on board?
  10. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    Thanks everyone. I am so relieved to at least know that we're moving in the right direction.

    Witz, my brother is definitely on board. My oldest sister was actually angry with him because he was the first to mention 'nursing home' a few years ago. But now sis sees that it doesn't havt to be like the olden days of nursing homes where people sit in hallways hunched over in wheelchairs sitting in their own mess, waiting to die.

    Yeah, still very very happy and relieved.