OK folks, the plot has not thickened as usual but lightened up and loosened up........go figure......... My daughter has continued improving daily. She has calmed down and is getting her priorities straight. She has a job as a bookkeeper about 20 hours a week with more hours coming as she sets up QuickBooks for the owner. Just today she started another job as a server in a local restaurant. She will get her hours this week. It will likely be weekends, it is their busy season. She is also signed up with a catering service. So, the job situation has resolved, she will be earning more then enough to pay for her own life, with probably close to 40 hours per week. She just got back a little while ago to tell us she found a room to stay in. It is with 3 men she knows well. She has the upstairs room and shares one bath with one guy. These are all older guys who all work, have kids, are regular guys. The interesting thing is her new digs are literally across a vineyard away from her job as a bookkeeper, so she can walk to work. She is going to have her car towed off of my property this week and she found another guy who will work on it and fix it within her financial parameters. In fact, he is friends with the 3 new roommates and works on their cars. He diagnosed the issues and can repair them easily. She has been regularly going to my acupuncturist, taking herbs which she says are helping. She has been sleeping well and eating well. Today, for the first time in literally years, when she called me after work to tell me she was going to talk to a friend about a room, her voice was excited, enthusiastic and happy, the way she said, "Mom?" at the beginning of the phone call, had that buoyancy and joy in it that I haven't heard in 14 years, since her husband died. Last night when she got the other job was the first time I allowed myself to really think, 'she is going to make it.' She watched a movie with us and it was a "normal" family evening, with my granddaughter baking cupcakes, watching "Gravity" and just hanging out. But, today, after hearing that she found a place to live and her excitement about it and her knowledge that she can, on her own, afford this place, was a turning point for me. She's changed. I've changed. The situation has changed. On Friday my SO and I decided to purchase a home together. We met with a realtor and began that process. And, we decided to get married earlier then originally planned. Last night my granddaughter asked if she can leave for college 5 days early to take advantage of an early program the dorm and college offer. We will drive down with her (she has her own car now.......it's about 6 hours south) and stay there a few days, to just relax. My SO and I just booked a 2 week trip to Kauai (our favorite place on the planet) in October which looks like it may be perfect timing for a belated honeymoon and a celebration (if all works out well) of our newly purchased home. This weekend brought so many changes........I am still reeling a little bit, but in a really wonderful way. We are ALL moving forward now, each one of us, to a different life, where we are connected and yet separate........except for my SO and I, we're very connected and tight........... we look forward to sharing our new life in our new home...........just the two of us.............(well at least until the holidays when our college girl will be home!) It's a new day.