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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 665182" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>You are doing really well.</p><p></p><p>It takes time for our DCs to start grasping that mommy is not going to take care of their every little need and want.</p><p></p><p>When we give them money and continue to help them out their world is wonderful but when we stop they start to see the ugliness of the world around them. Unfortunately many of our DCs do not see this as a reflection of their own doing. For whatever reason they prefer to stay in the mode of being a victim.</p><p>As their mothers, we are the ones who were always there to make their world okay and that's why they keep coming back to us and when we stop enabling them they become angry with us.</p><p></p><p>You are very smart in listening to the background noises and being cautious of what he tells you.</p><p></p><p>Of course he know where he can go to get a meal but it's much easier for him if he can manipulate you into giving in.</p><p></p><p>Again, you are doing great. Stand firm and continue. Eventually he will start to grasp that you cannot be manipulated and his efforts will lessen. I wish I could tell you it will only last x number of days or weeks but it's different for everyone.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 665182, member: 18516"] You are doing really well. It takes time for our DCs to start grasping that mommy is not going to take care of their every little need and want. When we give them money and continue to help them out their world is wonderful but when we stop they start to see the ugliness of the world around them. Unfortunately many of our DCs do not see this as a reflection of their own doing. For whatever reason they prefer to stay in the mode of being a victim. As their mothers, we are the ones who were always there to make their world okay and that's why they keep coming back to us and when we stop enabling them they become angry with us. You are very smart in listening to the background noises and being cautious of what he tells you. Of course he know where he can go to get a meal but it's much easier for him if he can manipulate you into giving in. Again, you are doing great. Stand firm and continue. Eventually he will start to grasp that you cannot be manipulated and his efforts will lessen. I wish I could tell you it will only last x number of days or weeks but it's different for everyone. :staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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