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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 687121" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>It's such a tricky one, wondering if a difficult child can be trusted to stay in our home, knowing they are homeless while our house lies empty. I had this dilemma with my son when he offered to stay in our house and look after our pets while we were away on holiday. He was living rough at the time and it seemed so ridiculous that this big, warm house was empty but that I couldn't trust my homeless son to live in it for a while. It's so crazy that it gets to this situation where our kids have turned into these people that we can't trust to be in our home alone. My main issue with him was the state I knew he would turn the place into. He would manage to turn it into a filthy tip in 2 weeks. There wouldn't be any drugs or theft or anything like that, but just a general lack of thought and lack of respect for anything. I decided that it would ruin my holiday worrying about what was happening back home so I did my usual and paid someone to take care of the cats and my son did his usual and muddled through, as he always does. Things have moved on a lot with him, but I still don't think I'd let him stay in my house alone. They've created this situation themselves and lost our trust. My son would have to regain my trust completely before I let him stay alone, and I'm not quite there yet. Has your daughter regained your trust enough? That's the only question to ask yourself I think. I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you. That decision is only about whether or not she stays in your house though. - Don't cancel the trip!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 687121, member: 17650"] It's such a tricky one, wondering if a difficult child can be trusted to stay in our home, knowing they are homeless while our house lies empty. I had this dilemma with my son when he offered to stay in our house and look after our pets while we were away on holiday. He was living rough at the time and it seemed so ridiculous that this big, warm house was empty but that I couldn't trust my homeless son to live in it for a while. It's so crazy that it gets to this situation where our kids have turned into these people that we can't trust to be in our home alone. My main issue with him was the state I knew he would turn the place into. He would manage to turn it into a filthy tip in 2 weeks. There wouldn't be any drugs or theft or anything like that, but just a general lack of thought and lack of respect for anything. I decided that it would ruin my holiday worrying about what was happening back home so I did my usual and paid someone to take care of the cats and my son did his usual and muddled through, as he always does. Things have moved on a lot with him, but I still don't think I'd let him stay in my house alone. They've created this situation themselves and lost our trust. My son would have to regain my trust completely before I let him stay alone, and I'm not quite there yet. Has your daughter regained your trust enough? That's the only question to ask yourself I think. I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you. That decision is only about whether or not she stays in your house though. - Don't cancel the trip!! [/QUOTE]
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