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Update on my roller coaster week with difficult son
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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 682044" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p>My word, U&D. You are such a task master! You asked him to give the dogs water. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/9-07tears.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":9-07tears:" title="crying :9-07tears:" data-shortname=":9-07tears:" /></p><p></p><p>Do you believe that he was really having hallucinations or do you think that was just an excuse to go off the medication? He didn't even really give it time to work properly. You are supposed to trial new medications for at least a month. I agree with you that stopping cold turkey is a bad idea. I always taper off any medication slowly. I even go more slowly than the doctors advise since I am prone to migraines. I cut the pills in half as long as they aren't capsules. </p><p></p><p>I think we have to discard the idea that our children <em>might</em> die by suicide. I don't mean that we ignore comments about suicide or thoughts about suicide or acts that are risky. What I mean is that we cannot allow that "potential" to get in the way of our parenting. My son is 50% more likely than the average person to die by suicide. Add in the fact that his uncle also died that way, and that must raise his percentage even higher. So, what to do?</p><p></p><p>I think we still parent them like we would any other kid. Give them responsibilities and chores. Taking care of the dogs is actually a good one, because the animals are dependent upon them. The animals reward the kids with love and affection. Ferb feeds our cat dinner, and she comes a runnin' when he arrives home from school.</p><p></p><p>Other chores help a depressed person feel good about himself. I don't mean ask him to cut the entire lawn with hand shears, but reasonable household chores like doing his laundry, washing dishing, and <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/vacuumsm.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":vacuumsm:" title="vacuumsm :vacuumsm:" data-shortname=":vacuumsm:" />. Mindless cleaning tasks leave a person feeling a little better about himself after completing them. </p><p></p><p>Ignore all that moaning and groaning about the tasks. That's normal teen refusal. Tell your son you are preparing him for adult life. </p><p></p><p>I think you absolutely need to give yourself breaks from the homebound education issue. He will be fine for you to go out for an hour. Give him an assignment, and trust him to do it while you're gone. You will both benefit from the time apart. </p><p></p><p>And when you are running through all those positives at the end of the day, add to them a picture of your son graduating from high school. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 682044, member: 11832"] My word, U&D. You are such a task master! You asked him to give the dogs water. :9-07tears: Do you believe that he was really having hallucinations or do you think that was just an excuse to go off the medication? He didn't even really give it time to work properly. You are supposed to trial new medications for at least a month. I agree with you that stopping cold turkey is a bad idea. I always taper off any medication slowly. I even go more slowly than the doctors advise since I am prone to migraines. I cut the pills in half as long as they aren't capsules. I think we have to discard the idea that our children [I]might[/I] die by suicide. I don't mean that we ignore comments about suicide or thoughts about suicide or acts that are risky. What I mean is that we cannot allow that "potential" to get in the way of our parenting. My son is 50% more likely than the average person to die by suicide. Add in the fact that his uncle also died that way, and that must raise his percentage even higher. So, what to do? I think we still parent them like we would any other kid. Give them responsibilities and chores. Taking care of the dogs is actually a good one, because the animals are dependent upon them. The animals reward the kids with love and affection. Ferb feeds our cat dinner, and she comes a runnin' when he arrives home from school. Other chores help a depressed person feel good about himself. I don't mean ask him to cut the entire lawn with hand shears, but reasonable household chores like doing his laundry, washing dishing, and :vacuumsm:. Mindless cleaning tasks leave a person feeling a little better about himself after completing them. Ignore all that moaning and groaning about the tasks. That's normal teen refusal. Tell your son you are preparing him for adult life. I think you absolutely need to give yourself breaks from the homebound education issue. He will be fine for you to go out for an hour. Give him an assignment, and trust him to do it while you're gone. You will both benefit from the time apart. And when you are running through all those positives at the end of the day, add to them a picture of your son graduating from high school. :) [/QUOTE]
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