toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
I thought I would give you all an update as to where we are. So my son has not been able to find a job where he is. I have no idea how hard he has been looking but do know that without a drivers liscence, without transportation and a felony on his record it makes it harder. So he has been feeling really stuck in a cycle.... Rehab, sober living, relapse, rehab etc. Its true this has been his cycle. So he talked to the friend/mentor who he worked for last year out in the dessert. He has decided to move back to the dessert near this guy and work for him again.
I have mixed feelings about this. I do think the absolute best thing for my son is to be working again. He loved working for this guy before and that was a big positive. However he got very isolated out there and the drinking got out of hand. So this time he will be living near the guy, has plans to try to make friends, will not be in exactly the same town he was in before... And is not reeling from the breakup with his girlfriend.
He recognizes that he cannot use substances, such as alcohol to deal with his feelings but it sounds like he thinks he can still go out tor a beer with friends. At least he was honest with us about his thoughts on this but I think he is probably wrong about this. I told him he would be smart to at least make a rule that he doesn't drink alone and he agrees.
So we are trying to be supportive and loving and let him find his way and hope for the best. At least right now he sounds positive rather than depressed and full of despair.....
We went to our alanon meeting the other night and there was a really good reading about enabling.... Which I will put in another post.
TL
I thought I would give you all an update as to where we are. So my son has not been able to find a job where he is. I have no idea how hard he has been looking but do know that without a drivers liscence, without transportation and a felony on his record it makes it harder. So he has been feeling really stuck in a cycle.... Rehab, sober living, relapse, rehab etc. Its true this has been his cycle. So he talked to the friend/mentor who he worked for last year out in the dessert. He has decided to move back to the dessert near this guy and work for him again.
I have mixed feelings about this. I do think the absolute best thing for my son is to be working again. He loved working for this guy before and that was a big positive. However he got very isolated out there and the drinking got out of hand. So this time he will be living near the guy, has plans to try to make friends, will not be in exactly the same town he was in before... And is not reeling from the breakup with his girlfriend.
He recognizes that he cannot use substances, such as alcohol to deal with his feelings but it sounds like he thinks he can still go out tor a beer with friends. At least he was honest with us about his thoughts on this but I think he is probably wrong about this. I told him he would be smart to at least make a rule that he doesn't drink alone and he agrees.
So we are trying to be supportive and loving and let him find his way and hope for the best. At least right now he sounds positive rather than depressed and full of despair.....
We went to our alanon meeting the other night and there was a really good reading about enabling.... Which I will put in another post.
TL