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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 689889" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Maybe next time he is prepared to make a commitment to sobriety he will consider a program where work is a part.</p><p></p><p>I know how much you and your husband have been with your son through this recovery process. I know how hard it is when our children make choices that we perceive are not in their best interests.</p><p></p><p>Like you say, it is a process.</p><p></p><p>I am struggling with my own son. Sometimes too embarrassed at the mistakes I make to post. Last night we had a blow out here at the house and both M and I ordered my son out--it came to yelling.</p><p></p><p>I felt very sad. That is always my reaction. Because I do not want him homeless, but I do not want to help him live in the same way he has been.</p><p></p><p>M said: <em>We have to find a solution to this. How to help him. </em>I stayed silent.</p><p></p><p>When I went to where M was working today, to bring him lunch, there was son working along side him. My son is the one who has to find a solution to this, not me. Not M. When I remember this, we succeed. When I reach too far, things go awry.</p><p></p><p>Our sons are doing this. Not as we would want. But as they do. It has to be good enough.</p><p></p><p>You are very strong, TL. People tell me I am strong, although I do not feel it sometimes. Maybe this is part of the learning for both of us. And for our sons. How to <em>let them</em> do this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 689889, member: 18958"] Maybe next time he is prepared to make a commitment to sobriety he will consider a program where work is a part. I know how much you and your husband have been with your son through this recovery process. I know how hard it is when our children make choices that we perceive are not in their best interests. Like you say, it is a process. I am struggling with my own son. Sometimes too embarrassed at the mistakes I make to post. Last night we had a blow out here at the house and both M and I ordered my son out--it came to yelling. I felt very sad. That is always my reaction. Because I do not want him homeless, but I do not want to help him live in the same way he has been. M said: [I]We have to find a solution to this. How to help him. [/I]I stayed silent. When I went to where M was working today, to bring him lunch, there was son working along side him. My son is the one who has to find a solution to this, not me. Not M. When I remember this, we succeed. When I reach too far, things go awry. Our sons are doing this. Not as we would want. But as they do. It has to be good enough. You are very strong, TL. People tell me I am strong, although I do not feel it sometimes. Maybe this is part of the learning for both of us. And for our sons. How to [I]let them[/I] do this. [/QUOTE]
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