I thought I would update as to some good news! Over the past several months, my husband and I have changed our approach as to our son's marijuana use. We tried hard to let him know we strongly disapproved but that we couldn't control what he chooses to do outside of our home. We stopped fighting him. He was smoking ALL the time. As a result, we told him as soon as school gets out he is required to pay for the insurance on his car and get a job. That is in addition to paying for his own gas which he already does. Things were very tense for a few days and he was extremely angry and stressed. Now for the good news. Late one night, he went to my husband and asked if he gave up smoking, would my husband teach him how to fix cars. He wants to do this to develop a career path for himself. He hasn't smoked in a few days at all. That right there is progress. Now I also am smart enough to realize he may very well start up again but just seeing the signs that he cares and wants more for himself is fantastic. With the weed out of the picture, he is realizing that physically he is hurting from his anxiety. He even told me today that he has realized that although weed numbs his mind out, it makes him feel physically worse. I know we have a long way to go but I am starting to see some of the very first signs of wanting to change. He has underlying mental health issues, so I am just happy that for now we can work on those without the mind numbing marijuana.