So, our 'temporary' situation is going ok. Not horrible like I feared. He's been here two weeks, we've discussed his long term plans - He actually paid back who he owed out of the check he just got- me (shock! I literally was speechless- it's not even CLOSE to what he TRULY owes me, but he kept his word to give me $80 when he got paid and he did it)...his sister, my dad, etc. He's working for an apartment complex and they re-did their model apartment so they gave him (confirmed it's legit) a queen size bed, two dressers, nightstand, and a loveseat. I told him this was a good 'start' for when he gets his own apartment. He has the baby this weekend - his sister's birthday is today so they are going out so I'm on grandma duty (which I love)..... Now to the not great stuff- I have been living without him in my house for almost two years. I've gotten USED to NOT living with any drama at all. I've been completely on my own (living alone, for the first time in my LIFE as an adult) in April of this year (to recap: when he stole from me, I moved out of a family owned home in 2/2014, put everything I own in storage, and lived with my mom until we could get the house sold. Thankfully, I traveled for work 5 nights a week, so it was bearable).....so today, I told him something minor to HIM, but big to ME. He started with that damn attitude and I told him "don't tell me how to react to something in my own house, I told you when I allowed you to stay here I was NOT going to argue with you or debate with you. Guess what? My house. If I want (for example) a door shut then that's MY prerogative, whether you think it makes sense or NOT. You know what you can do if you don't like this.....which made him upset- because he keeps saying that this is what both myself and his sister do- hold over his head that he can be put out at anytime. I had to remind him that it is TRUE- he can. So appreciating the fact that I was letting him stay here was testament to my belief he is trying to do the right thing- but that doesn't mean I'm stupid or gullible anymore (I said that out loud more for me than for him I think)- I have to say he actually stopped talking. My daughter came by earlier today (he was gone) and I started to cry- like, out of the blue- that maybe this was a mistake. I didn't want him here. But right now he is complying with what I told him when he got here. I don't worry about him stealing or punching a hole in the wall- he knows this behavior could impact his ability to be involved with his baby. /sigh. I've told him no later than the end of February. that's two months. Even if we are doing fine- two months is my limit. I think that's more than reasonable. I also told him today that the blessing in having our OWN places to live is NO ONE can tell us what to do- that if he wanted to do X,Y, or Z in his OWN place- no one could tell him he can't- so this has to be his goal.