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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 677344" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>I think it is good that our d cs understand that their choices and actions hurt their parents. It is consequences. I think, at least for my d cs, they have completely put on the side what they have done to themselves, as well as done to us.</p><p>I was a d c, as a young teen. I realized when I turned 19 or so, that I had hurt myself, and hurt my parents. I was <em>steeped </em>in remorse. I felt incredibly guilty and sorrowful for the troubles I had caused them. I made it a goal to try to make amends and to apologize, and I did, over and over again.</p><p> "<strong>Empathy</strong> is the capacity to understand or feel what another being (a human or non-human animal) is experiencing from within the other being's frame of reference, i.e., the capacity to place oneself in another's position."</p><p> I think this is natural for us to feel for all of our children, no matter how old they are. We try to put ourselves in their place and understand how they may feel.</p><p>We do not go about purposefully hurting our kids, our d cs.</p><p> Sometimes, <em><strong>the truth hurts</strong></em>. </p><p>I think this truth that you shared will give him cause for reflection over his misdeeds.</p><p> He has to think about why his mother would say such a thing. </p><p>Hopefully, he will understand how difficult your journey has been and is, how it affects you, how his actions have caused you to feel this way. </p><p>One cannot walk all over another, lie, steal and use, without repercussions.</p><p></p><p> I think you are doing terrific Penny, in setting limits and helping him understand that you will help, but his life is his own. Good for you. Take care and give that precious little one a big squeezy hug for me!</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 677344, member: 19522"] I think it is good that our d cs understand that their choices and actions hurt their parents. It is consequences. I think, at least for my d cs, they have completely put on the side what they have done to themselves, as well as done to us. I was a d c, as a young teen. I realized when I turned 19 or so, that I had hurt myself, and hurt my parents. I was [I]steeped [/I]in remorse. I felt incredibly guilty and sorrowful for the troubles I had caused them. I made it a goal to try to make amends and to apologize, and I did, over and over again. "[B]Empathy[/B] is the capacity to understand or feel what another being (a human or non-human animal) is experiencing from within the other being's frame of reference, i.e., the capacity to place oneself in another's position." I think this is natural for us to feel for all of our children, no matter how old they are. We try to put ourselves in their place and understand how they may feel. We do not go about purposefully hurting our kids, our d cs. Sometimes, [I][B]the truth hurts[/B][/I]. I think this truth that you shared will give him cause for reflection over his misdeeds. He has to think about why his mother would say such a thing. Hopefully, he will understand how difficult your journey has been and is, how it affects you, how his actions have caused you to feel this way. One cannot walk all over another, lie, steal and use, without repercussions. I think you are doing terrific Penny, in setting limits and helping him understand that you will help, but his life is his own. Good for you. Take care and give that precious little one a big squeezy hug for me! (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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