Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Update on son moving back into my house
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 677463" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>Thanks y'all- it's very trying. I know that part of my 'calm' with him is because I'm not in my OWN home anymore- can't have screaming matches (and, I learned through experience, that both of us yelling means neither of us can hear the other).</p><p></p><p>I know there are times he does HEAR me, and doesn't want to ADMIT it- it's like a high for him - he is all manic and crazy talking then he calms himself. He actually directed HIMSELF into the shower (One of our tactics when he was a volatile youth/teenager was water- a counselor told me once when Difficult Child was losing control to put him in the tub- water is calming and can help- and it did- he took many baths as a 7/8 year old via bear hug to the bathroom).....at any rate, then he went to his car and then left. He has since texted an apology.</p><p></p><p>I'm not defending his behavior or trying to make excuses, but he's such a broken young man. Many mental issues that he won't get help for. I think some of it is because he doesn't want to hear the truth- because HE KNOWS WHAT I'M TELLING HIM IS THE TRUTH.</p><p></p><p>My delivery isn't always great- but it's the truth. One other thing that set him off before he left was his proclamation of what a 'great dad' he is- and how if I'm just going to belittle and down him all the time, then I won't see the baby because he's not going to have us (my daughter and I) do that to him in front of his son. I told him to do whatever he chose to do and I was hurt that he would actually think I would do such a thing in my GB's presence- well, because I didn't take his bait- then I didn't care about his baby and felt my grandbaby was a burden- which I NEVER SAID. It's what he HEARD, but not what I said. I told him that what I wanted him to know is there is more to being a 'great dad' than saying it and proclaiming it, and yes, I told him that interacting with his phone rather than his son wasn't being a parent at all, but rather a babysitter. At any rate, that whole conversation just spiraled into crazy and part of that is because I can't keep my mouth closed either (no matter how calm).</p><p></p><p>So we'll see. I told him him he was on borrowed time with me after all this- and the sooner he move out the better. That we all seem to get along much better when we don't have to share space on purpose.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 677463, member: 18271"] Thanks y'all- it's very trying. I know that part of my 'calm' with him is because I'm not in my OWN home anymore- can't have screaming matches (and, I learned through experience, that both of us yelling means neither of us can hear the other). I know there are times he does HEAR me, and doesn't want to ADMIT it- it's like a high for him - he is all manic and crazy talking then he calms himself. He actually directed HIMSELF into the shower (One of our tactics when he was a volatile youth/teenager was water- a counselor told me once when Difficult Child was losing control to put him in the tub- water is calming and can help- and it did- he took many baths as a 7/8 year old via bear hug to the bathroom).....at any rate, then he went to his car and then left. He has since texted an apology. I'm not defending his behavior or trying to make excuses, but he's such a broken young man. Many mental issues that he won't get help for. I think some of it is because he doesn't want to hear the truth- because HE KNOWS WHAT I'M TELLING HIM IS THE TRUTH. My delivery isn't always great- but it's the truth. One other thing that set him off before he left was his proclamation of what a 'great dad' he is- and how if I'm just going to belittle and down him all the time, then I won't see the baby because he's not going to have us (my daughter and I) do that to him in front of his son. I told him to do whatever he chose to do and I was hurt that he would actually think I would do such a thing in my GB's presence- well, because I didn't take his bait- then I didn't care about his baby and felt my grandbaby was a burden- which I NEVER SAID. It's what he HEARD, but not what I said. I told him that what I wanted him to know is there is more to being a 'great dad' than saying it and proclaiming it, and yes, I told him that interacting with his phone rather than his son wasn't being a parent at all, but rather a babysitter. At any rate, that whole conversation just spiraled into crazy and part of that is because I can't keep my mouth closed either (no matter how calm). So we'll see. I told him him he was on borrowed time with me after all this- and the sooner he move out the better. That we all seem to get along much better when we don't have to share space on purpose. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
Update on son moving back into my house
Top