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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 663107" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>I just want to say, I get it. There was a time when my Youngest was in such a bad place, I worried about her ability to care for her 2 kids. I let them all stay with me for a few months, and in that short period it became apparent to me that if things got worse, even though I love my grandkids, there was no way I could take care of them by myself. I raised two Difficult Children by myself, and that took everything I had - and I was "young" then. I'm 53 now - not "old" by any means but I'm done. I did my time with battling IEPs and carting kids to doctor/psychiatric visits and therapy, while also working full time and coordinating care for my elderly parents, and I have no energy left to raise another difficult child (let alone more than one). I have my life back and I'm selfishly not giving it up again. I don't have the physical or emotional energy. The thought of it used to send me into full panic attack mode because of the battle of "I can't do this" feelings vs. "what will happen to my grandkids" feelings. </p><p></p><p>Thankfully things got better for my daughter, she turned her life around. But, if things began going backward again -- I just can't think about it. Especially since she now has a third child on the way (heck I don't think there's any way I will even babysit 3 kids at once by myself - can't see that happening. I'll have to take 1 at a time). I just pray she continues to do as great as she is now - she's really changed so I think that's more likely than ever.</p><p></p><p>I don't have answers, just wanted you to know that your feelings are completely understandable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 663107, member: 1157"] I just want to say, I get it. There was a time when my Youngest was in such a bad place, I worried about her ability to care for her 2 kids. I let them all stay with me for a few months, and in that short period it became apparent to me that if things got worse, even though I love my grandkids, there was no way I could take care of them by myself. I raised two Difficult Children by myself, and that took everything I had - and I was "young" then. I'm 53 now - not "old" by any means but I'm done. I did my time with battling IEPs and carting kids to doctor/psychiatric visits and therapy, while also working full time and coordinating care for my elderly parents, and I have no energy left to raise another difficult child (let alone more than one). I have my life back and I'm selfishly not giving it up again. I don't have the physical or emotional energy. The thought of it used to send me into full panic attack mode because of the battle of "I can't do this" feelings vs. "what will happen to my grandkids" feelings. Thankfully things got better for my daughter, she turned her life around. But, if things began going backward again -- I just can't think about it. Especially since she now has a third child on the way (heck I don't think there's any way I will even babysit 3 kids at once by myself - can't see that happening. I'll have to take 1 at a time). I just pray she continues to do as great as she is now - she's really changed so I think that's more likely than ever. I don't have answers, just wanted you to know that your feelings are completely understandable. [/QUOTE]
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