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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 629501" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>COM, this stopped my heart.</p><p></p><p>I hadn't seen your posting until this morning. I was reading along, imagining how I would feel when ~ BOOM ~ I came to this.</p><p></p><p>It's like living under a curse where we never know what time it is.</p><p></p><p>You spoke the words correctly, COM. difficult child does not need to know what it cost you to say them. </p><p></p><p>You have tried the other way.</p><p></p><p>This is a very hard thing. Time will pass.</p><p></p><p>That is the only thing I know for sure. Time will pass. This will only be what happened, a hard thing that was met head on. </p><p></p><p>Acknowledge your courage in this, COM.</p><p></p><p>It was a hard thing, but you know it was a right decision.</p><p></p><p>****************************</p><p></p><p>I am sorry your sister added another dimension, another layer of cruelty and confusion, to what was already impossibly painful. They like to strike while the iron is hot. It is difficult to find us off balance unless something has happened to one of our kids, to those we love, and we have sustained a heart wound.</p><p></p><p>There was a time when my current position would have been unimaginable to me. I suppose our sisters feel some kind of validation in the devastation created in our lives as our children fall and fall and fall.</p><p></p><p>I don't know why. It must have been very hard for them to have seen us, happy. Years ago, my sister told me she and her religious fundamentalist cohorts prayed and prayed a "ring of thorns" around my family to "bring me to the Lord".</p><p></p><p>Given what has happened to all of us, I sometimes wonder about that. And about her, and about who she is, really.</p><p></p><p>****************</p><p></p><p>We are here, COM. </p><p></p><p>Going through these kinds of things with our children is like watching our insides tear themselves apart. It is impossible to do the right thing. We do it anyway.</p><p></p><p>It doesn't work.</p><p></p><p>So, we learn more. We do the next right thing.</p><p></p><p>It doesn't work.</p><p></p><p>We learn more.</p><p></p><p>We do the next right thing.</p><p></p><p>Around us, everything is falling apart.</p><p></p><p>We let go.</p><p></p><p>It is what it is.</p><p></p><p>How sad that is, when we were committed, for all of our lives, to making it better...I think we did not lose often, COM. Not that we did not meet challenge after challenge. We did. </p><p></p><p>We are meeting these challenges with our kids correctly, too. It doesn't look or feel like it.</p><p></p><p>We have not given up.</p><p></p><p>Hang on, COM.</p><p></p><p>You have done hard things before.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 629501, member: 17461"] COM, this stopped my heart. I hadn't seen your posting until this morning. I was reading along, imagining how I would feel when ~ BOOM ~ I came to this. It's like living under a curse where we never know what time it is. You spoke the words correctly, COM. difficult child does not need to know what it cost you to say them. You have tried the other way. This is a very hard thing. Time will pass. That is the only thing I know for sure. Time will pass. This will only be what happened, a hard thing that was met head on. Acknowledge your courage in this, COM. It was a hard thing, but you know it was a right decision. **************************** I am sorry your sister added another dimension, another layer of cruelty and confusion, to what was already impossibly painful. They like to strike while the iron is hot. It is difficult to find us off balance unless something has happened to one of our kids, to those we love, and we have sustained a heart wound. There was a time when my current position would have been unimaginable to me. I suppose our sisters feel some kind of validation in the devastation created in our lives as our children fall and fall and fall. I don't know why. It must have been very hard for them to have seen us, happy. Years ago, my sister told me she and her religious fundamentalist cohorts prayed and prayed a "ring of thorns" around my family to "bring me to the Lord". Given what has happened to all of us, I sometimes wonder about that. And about her, and about who she is, really. **************** We are here, COM. Going through these kinds of things with our children is like watching our insides tear themselves apart. It is impossible to do the right thing. We do it anyway. It doesn't work. So, we learn more. We do the next right thing. It doesn't work. We learn more. We do the next right thing. Around us, everything is falling apart. We let go. It is what it is. How sad that is, when we were committed, for all of our lives, to making it better...I think we did not lose often, COM. Not that we did not meet challenge after challenge. We did. We are meeting these challenges with our kids correctly, too. It doesn't look or feel like it. We have not given up. Hang on, COM. You have done hard things before. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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