L lost her job last month. She was there about three months. She's still in her apartment that she got in October but says that she is "not renewing" her lease. I'm not certain how she got a three month lease, but she's now looking for a place taking roommates. She has been spending the last several weeks trying to contact M, and trying to arrange some sort of truce with my family and I. You might remember that she called my mother and asked if I could join them for dinner. They told her no, and that I should work up to invites to Holiday dinners with individual meetings with my sisters and parents to see if I was good enough to be invited. No thanks. Somehow L sees this as hopeful. I see it as insulting at best. My sister has been in her ear telling her that I shoved my mother around nine years ago the last time I saw her. Isn't it nice to know why you have been a pariah for nearly a decade? She spoke to M last week. M lost his latest job. Again. He had been living with a girl, but the girl told him to leave. He told L that he doesn't know where he is going to go, but there are a few friends he could sleep on the sofa with for a few days, "but they drink a lot so that might not be good for me to be around." Well, I can honestly say that we don't have an extra bed, because the only bed in our house is the one we sleep in. He wouldn't be welcome to stay in any case. Maybe he can sleep on L's sofa? Considering that she called me a week or so ago to ask my opinion as to whether he might have some sort of mental health issue that seems unlikely. I told her that I didn't care to put labels on people, but I felt it was possible he had some problems with depression. I just got a text from L that she was meeting M for coffee. I texted back "Tell him hello and ask if he needs anything." I didn't know what else to say. He can ask - not that he will - but that wouldn't guarantee that he would get what he asked for. I'll post when I know more. We just got husband's annual salary notification. A whopping 3% raise. And his bonus is about 60% of what it was last year. I guess we're done Christmas shopping. It's not good. I have been drumming up a lot of business for my boss, but he's notorious for being stingy. I don't know if I will get a bonus or not. So, all in all, it's been a very tough couple of weeks. We have no plans for Christmas because no one has invited us. L could come, but she has other places to be, and there's really not a lot of gifts or much to do with us. I don't know that we will hear from M. L will probably make arrangements for my family to have him over and then they can all have a big pity party for him, with me as the villain. I was going to make arrangements to go to the beach or mountains for Christmas, just so that we wouldn't have to be alone and doing nothing special. But I think that's not in the budget.