I've been working a lot, my mom was here for the 6 days before Christmas and pc18 came home last week. I've been reading in short bursts - I apologize for not replying more often. You all are always in my thoughts... difficult child is still a polite houseguest/stranger and its starting to grate. He is living his life in our house & it cannot continue. If you remember - h had a "come to Jesus" talk w him about a month ago and we haven't seen much progress. He claims he is heading back to school at the semester. I doubt it. He isn't registered, back tuition isn't paid afaik. And though he landed his dream job at the local ski hill earlier this month - he has been blowing it off this week. Not a good sign. He got his back pay from his summer employer on Friday and I suspect has been on a bender.No way the local ski hill is giving time off over a snowy winter break! He has not been driving. He doesn't have his own car and we can't insure him on ours as he is not a dependent nor a student and he has his own address 200 miles away. His job is 30 miles away. It's been a problem. H & I have given him a few rides there or to coworkers homes. He's bummed other rides (no public trans) from friends & coworkers. easy child 18 was going to take him this morning. easy child was up & dressed at 8:15 waiting. difficult child never got up. At 10, h woke him & difficult child said he wasn't going in. This has gone on too long. We've delayed & placated bc it was the holidays and we had hope. Any attempts to get updates rec'd quick assurances from him. It's gotten too far now. It's not going to end well. I am in knots. He's not working, not going to school and he can't stay here. I can't live in limbo. But I fear where any discussion will lead. I know where it's going. He will say ugly things and storm out once again. And I'll cry for days. He'll be gone and out if touch & the cycle will continue. I don't know that I can keep going in this pattern. In May, it will be 2 years since this began . No growth. Nothing's changed except he is still a stubborn 19 yo with 30 college credits - except now he will be 21 soon and is completely broke & has nothing to show for the last 2 years. .