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<blockquote data-quote="worried sick mother" data-source="post: 695322" data-attributes="member: 19069"><p>RN , oh goodness no my son would never blame his girlfriend, that is me that blames her. He gets very mad at me and says I blame her for all of his problems. He was in school making good grades and doing pretty good until he met her. She cheated on him when they first started dating and instead of leaving her(that's on him) he stayed with her and I'm pretty sure it broke his heart. She was an addict before he met her and he supposedly helped her get off heroin. She later got back on it and said he couldn't stand seeing her so sick if she didn't have any that he would do anything to get it for her and then ended up joining her in using. That came from her mouth when he went to rehab. She is just the strangest person I've ever met. She doesn't speak hardly at all . She has isolated him from all his friends and his family. She tells him that it's her and him against the world. She doesn't really have any friends. None of his friends can stand her either. I don't really know how to explain her other than she has a social anxiety disorder, really into out of body experiences, and is totally disrespectful especially to me. I'm not saying that we are the highest social class by any means but she comes from a very low social class family where drugs, breaking the law, fighting are all normal. My son wasn't raised this way at all. I tried so hard to be good to her and everything I do backfires . One time I bought her a pair of flip flops and some nail polish, put it in a little cute gift bag and sent it to her by my son. She had a fit on my son , even broke up with him and said she didn't need his moms handouts and insisted my son give the gift back to me which he refused and said my mom is just nice like that, she doesn't think you need a handout so she put it in the garbage. He probably shouldn't have told me about it. I bought her Christmas presents just as much as I bought my kids one year and she didn't even say thank you. She tells my son that she doesn't fit in with his family and therefore she isolated him from us. She seems to only like people who are into drugs. I have no clue what he sees in her, she is a very cute girl or was until she lost so much weight she's the size of an 8 year old. She posted a picture on fb one time of my son smoking a joint and I very kindly ask her to remove it and explained this could keep him from getting a good job through a text message, she completely told me off, refused to take it off fb and told me to stay off her page if I didn't like what she post so I blocked her on fb so I wouldn't have to see stuff like that. My son blames me. I begged her to go to rehab when my son went, found her a place to go and offered to take her but she says she quit on her own and refused. I was just hoping my son would finally see the light since he is clean . She totally controls him and she is definitely still using. I think maybe he is trying to help her get clean or who knows. I just know he's doing pretty good right now and that she is cheating on him with a drug dealer for drugs and it costed him his window broke out of his car. </p><p> I know my son is responsible for his own actions. I just really feel he would be ok if he could get away from her. He probably won't though, he has such low self esteem. To think she could be the mother of my grandchildren is a frightening thought. I also hate seeing my son get made such a fool of. </p><p> You are definitely right though it's out of my control and I'm trying very hard to not let it consume my life. I think I just still grieve how my sons life has turned out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="worried sick mother, post: 695322, member: 19069"] RN , oh goodness no my son would never blame his girlfriend, that is me that blames her. He gets very mad at me and says I blame her for all of his problems. He was in school making good grades and doing pretty good until he met her. She cheated on him when they first started dating and instead of leaving her(that's on him) he stayed with her and I'm pretty sure it broke his heart. She was an addict before he met her and he supposedly helped her get off heroin. She later got back on it and said he couldn't stand seeing her so sick if she didn't have any that he would do anything to get it for her and then ended up joining her in using. That came from her mouth when he went to rehab. She is just the strangest person I've ever met. She doesn't speak hardly at all . She has isolated him from all his friends and his family. She tells him that it's her and him against the world. She doesn't really have any friends. None of his friends can stand her either. I don't really know how to explain her other than she has a social anxiety disorder, really into out of body experiences, and is totally disrespectful especially to me. I'm not saying that we are the highest social class by any means but she comes from a very low social class family where drugs, breaking the law, fighting are all normal. My son wasn't raised this way at all. I tried so hard to be good to her and everything I do backfires . One time I bought her a pair of flip flops and some nail polish, put it in a little cute gift bag and sent it to her by my son. She had a fit on my son , even broke up with him and said she didn't need his moms handouts and insisted my son give the gift back to me which he refused and said my mom is just nice like that, she doesn't think you need a handout so she put it in the garbage. He probably shouldn't have told me about it. I bought her Christmas presents just as much as I bought my kids one year and she didn't even say thank you. She tells my son that she doesn't fit in with his family and therefore she isolated him from us. She seems to only like people who are into drugs. I have no clue what he sees in her, she is a very cute girl or was until she lost so much weight she's the size of an 8 year old. She posted a picture on fb one time of my son smoking a joint and I very kindly ask her to remove it and explained this could keep him from getting a good job through a text message, she completely told me off, refused to take it off fb and told me to stay off her page if I didn't like what she post so I blocked her on fb so I wouldn't have to see stuff like that. My son blames me. I begged her to go to rehab when my son went, found her a place to go and offered to take her but she says she quit on her own and refused. I was just hoping my son would finally see the light since he is clean . She totally controls him and she is definitely still using. I think maybe he is trying to help her get clean or who knows. I just know he's doing pretty good right now and that she is cheating on him with a drug dealer for drugs and it costed him his window broke out of his car. I know my son is responsible for his own actions. I just really feel he would be ok if he could get away from her. He probably won't though, he has such low self esteem. To think she could be the mother of my grandchildren is a frightening thought. I also hate seeing my son get made such a fool of. You are definitely right though it's out of my control and I'm trying very hard to not let it consume my life. I think I just still grieve how my sons life has turned out. [/QUOTE]
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