My son has been working steadily...granted part-time work, but close to 30 hours per week. He's had this job since November. The problem is, he's the only one. His girlfriend was fired because she couldn't work before 7 or after 5 - the only times the bus runs. His friend who moved up here at the end of January worked about 3 days at Arby's with my son, and quit. There are jobs. There are jobs walking distance from their apartment. They just don't apply. My son is trying to pay the rent, $375 per month, the deposit (which is supposed to be $50 a month), and food, etc., on his one, part-time salary while the other two sit on their butts and don't work. We all know how that goes - most of us have had this happen BY our difficult kids. I can't fix this. I can't make them work. He can't make them work. He can't kick out the girlfriend, because she's on the lease, although if he gave an ultimatum she'd probably go home to her dad. He CAN kick out his friend...which I've suggested only to be yelled out. I told him to give the man - (not kid - this guy is nearly 30!) - a deadline to get a damn job or get out. You'd think I was suggesting he just murder the man. His response was basically "they'll leave and I still won't have help". When I asked how that would make him any worse off, the response is that he'll be all alone and have no one. Breaks my heart. I told him the only other thing he can do then is just find a full-time job or a second part-time job so he can pay for everything himself...you can imagine how well that goes over. "Why should I work so they don't?" Well he's doing that NOW - only he can't pay the bills! So now it takes 100% of his income and they still don't work. But he doesn't want to be able to pay the bills because they won't work. It's this sad circular argument. The electric bill hasn't been paid since December and if he doesn't come up with $140 by the end of the week it'll be disconnected. I know. I shouldn't be thinking of giving it to him but I am. Jabber and I have talked and well, I'm sure he would be more likely than me to let it get shut off...but that just leads to more problems: the inability to cook, the inability to charge phones, reconnect fees, deposits needed when reconnecting...and darn it it's just not ALL my son's fault this time! I'm sure he's spent money foolishly too. I'm sure he's bought cigarettes and pizza and such when he shouldn't have. I know he should have taken care of this sooner. But he's not 100% to blame and I hate for him to be penalized when he's the ONLY person in that apartment trying. If the others - even one of them - had a job this wouldn't be happening. I'm very conflicted. He went to the Samaritan Center, but there was no money to be had to stop the disconnect. Of course, he's calling me so down in the dumps, alternating from raging to being near tears. IF I do this, I guarantee I will be demanding that I get to speak my peace and will make it very clear that this won't be done again. They have to get jobs and start helping pay for things or they'll be homeless again - well HE will be. The others have places to go. I want to help him! I want to show him that his work is paying off...that he's doing well. I just don't know what else I can do.