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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 749316" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>I think this is what CWS is pondering which is the next step- going to court. The process for them is to hold these conferences and try to get one parent to start towing the line.That is not necessarily in the kids best interest, but they have to follow procedure. Supposedly this conference happens Wednesday but I have no confirmation as of yet. No contact from the social worker yesterday.</p><p> I wonder if that would jeopardize my position as a temporary foster resource parent? It seems like a catch 22-making kin responsible for the children’s care, through the state agency while we sit and wait for the system to respond. As far as funds? Nothing, again. That is not my main concern but it is a factor. No word on health insurance. One would think that would be prioritized so the kids could start getting therapy to deal with the immediate stress of being uprooted. Sure, they are away from the abuse, that does not mean problem solved.</p><p>They are smart. They know that their parents and the system has failed them.</p><p></p><p> I am hoping that this will happen soon. I took my younger grandson for a ride to watch the sunrise and see the waves. We had a nice talk. They are reachable. Resilient.</p><p></p><p> Indeed one day at a time. I had a chat with a friend who has fostered and adopted many children. She said the State has to go through its process and it is slow because they are overwhelmed with cases. She knows my caseworker and said he’s a bit disorganized but is a good person. That’s important. </p><p></p><p> We are constantly discussing and working through issues. I think grandsons melt down shocked his sister and brother. Things have calmed somewhat for now. All I can do is wait and pray that the tides will turn and my grands will get a chance to live peaceably.</p><p> I think with time the kids will calm down and learn to express themselves in more positive ways. I have seen small changes already. I tell them that we all have our work cut out for us, adjusting to new living conditions and trying to remain calm and rely on faith. Hoku has been a tremendous help and has promised to be here to help even though they are moving in to their own place.</p><p>Tornado is in a predicament with her drug use. It is sad that it has overtaken her life to this extent. She knows that when she is caught, she will go to jail. I try to explain to the kids how drugs effect ability to reason and care about anything else. Hopefully one day she will awaken from meths spell.</p><p>My friend said once the state has done the necessary conferences, court is the next step. She urged me to attend so that I am involved and aware of decisions, that it is my right to go and that by law I have to be notified. I think that I will be covered under the family act to miss work if that be the case.</p><p>So, it is a waiting game. We will keep busy rearranging the house and getting the kids settled in to a routine. Hopefully the gears will be put in motion so that I can get the kids registered for school and take them to the dentist and doctors. In the meantime we will continue to work through challenges and discuss issues. I think the kids are appreciative to have an opportunity to express themselves. I have to move forward with faith that there will be resolution. I intend to work hard for my grands right to have peace in their lives. I expect them to learn to respect my right to have the same.</p><p>Thanks so much for following along and offering comfort, wisdom and understanding.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 749316, member: 19522"] I think this is what CWS is pondering which is the next step- going to court. The process for them is to hold these conferences and try to get one parent to start towing the line.That is not necessarily in the kids best interest, but they have to follow procedure. Supposedly this conference happens Wednesday but I have no confirmation as of yet. No contact from the social worker yesterday. I wonder if that would jeopardize my position as a temporary foster resource parent? It seems like a catch 22-making kin responsible for the children’s care, through the state agency while we sit and wait for the system to respond. As far as funds? Nothing, again. That is not my main concern but it is a factor. No word on health insurance. One would think that would be prioritized so the kids could start getting therapy to deal with the immediate stress of being uprooted. Sure, they are away from the abuse, that does not mean problem solved. They are smart. They know that their parents and the system has failed them. I am hoping that this will happen soon. I took my younger grandson for a ride to watch the sunrise and see the waves. We had a nice talk. They are reachable. Resilient. Indeed one day at a time. I had a chat with a friend who has fostered and adopted many children. She said the State has to go through its process and it is slow because they are overwhelmed with cases. She knows my caseworker and said he’s a bit disorganized but is a good person. That’s important. We are constantly discussing and working through issues. I think grandsons melt down shocked his sister and brother. Things have calmed somewhat for now. All I can do is wait and pray that the tides will turn and my grands will get a chance to live peaceably. I think with time the kids will calm down and learn to express themselves in more positive ways. I have seen small changes already. I tell them that we all have our work cut out for us, adjusting to new living conditions and trying to remain calm and rely on faith. Hoku has been a tremendous help and has promised to be here to help even though they are moving in to their own place. Tornado is in a predicament with her drug use. It is sad that it has overtaken her life to this extent. She knows that when she is caught, she will go to jail. I try to explain to the kids how drugs effect ability to reason and care about anything else. Hopefully one day she will awaken from meths spell. My friend said once the state has done the necessary conferences, court is the next step. She urged me to attend so that I am involved and aware of decisions, that it is my right to go and that by law I have to be notified. I think that I will be covered under the family act to miss work if that be the case. So, it is a waiting game. We will keep busy rearranging the house and getting the kids settled in to a routine. Hopefully the gears will be put in motion so that I can get the kids registered for school and take them to the dentist and doctors. In the meantime we will continue to work through challenges and discuss issues. I think the kids are appreciative to have an opportunity to express themselves. I have to move forward with faith that there will be resolution. I intend to work hard for my grands right to have peace in their lives. I expect them to learn to respect my right to have the same. Thanks so much for following along and offering comfort, wisdom and understanding. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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