My opinion is apparently not worthy of listening to because I'm not my difficult children biological parent. I am also apparently suspicious of all things psychiatric because I ask questions. My feelings are so hurt right now I don't even know where to start. I guess I'll start with our referral from the neuropsychologist to a new psychiatrist. My difficult children went to the new psychiatrist last week. husband took them and I stayed home with the other 3. The new psychiatrist gave them chlonidine for sleep and a different ADHD medication for each difficult child. The neuro psychiatric hadn't submitted his opinion yet to the psychiatrist, but called the next night with results. He said at this time that he had sent them over to the new psychiatrist. So we had our follow up appointment with the neuropsychologist Tuesday. While in his office husband tells us both that when he took the kids to the psychiatrist the psychiatrist was a nervous wreck with the kids and his furniture. husband said he didn't want their feet on his leather couch it ruines the leather, he didn't want them to play with stuff on his table, it may scratch it. WHAT? So both NP and I are thinking this is odd for a psychiatrist who specializes in kids, right? Okay, so today is the follow up appointment with the psychiatrist. We arrange for dad to watch all the kids (ya'll know how well this went before) so that I could be there today. Well we get to his office and in his waiting room are 2 expensive pieces of art and an expensive table. In fact, the table actually has two notes on it saying "Do not touch" and let me describe the artwork. In one piece it looks to be a charcoal drawing about 5 ft by 3 ft. It has a skeleton in it, a woman with her hands to her head looking as if shes screaming and two odd faces in boxes staring back at her. In the next, it looks to be the chalk type stuff thats soft (sorry the name is escaping me right now) anyways, its a color picture, same size, with a woman shooting a gun and you see the smoke and the bullet and its pointing at something/someone. Okay, how appropriate is this for kids? husband didn't even notice this stuff the first time! GRRRR! Okay, so we get into the office and the new psychiatrist shakes my hand and I sit on his couch. He asks us how difficult children are doing and I say okay, but I'd like to look into their mood disorders. He looks at me and says "Are you their biological mother?" and I say "No." and he looks at me and says, "Well, then I'd like to hear what their biological father thinks." Then later in the conversation he says well your so suspicious and then says, well you say you're so suspicious of psychiatry and I looked at him and said "I didn't say that, you did." Then he thinks for a second and says "Oh, yes I did." He goes on, but the entire time doesn't want my input, so I shut up. husband doesn't know answers to his questions and he looks at me, but I just sat there. I whispered under my breath to husband, "He doesn't want my input, but yes, I do know the answer." husband never says a word to how this man is treating me, not one. We're coming to a close and psychiatrist actually looks at me and asks me a question about youngest difficult child. I just stared at him blankly, so he repeats the question. I said, "Oh, I'm sorry, do you want my opinion now?" and he says "Yes" so I told him what I thought. On top of all this, psychiatrist thinks we should be treating the ADHD symptons prior to the mood disorders because if my difficult children can't focus, then it won't help to treat the mood disorders. Of course, I tried to explain what I felt, but that was the beginning of the end. He had no tolerance of my opinion or any knowledge I could gain from online because I'm so suspicious. When leaving his office his secretary said "Okay, so 3 weeks" and I said "No, we won't be coming back. He's a jerk and I don't know how you work with him." She said "I'm sorry." and we left. Do I fill the new medications? I don't think I should if I'm not taking them back to him, wouldn't that mean they're not under a doctors care? Am I hurting my kids by not taking them to this man? Everything from him not being kid friendly to him being so disrespectful to me, feels wrong. The fact that husband didn't say a word, when he knew he didn't know the answers and I did, but rather than speak up and say something, he'd rather just give this guy half a** answers. The fact that I've been here for my difficult children for 4 1/2 years now, their bio moms rights are terminated, husband and I are joint managing conservators of them, I know all their medications and dosages, I know all their history, I deal with all the day to day stuff, but because I'm not blood related to them, my opinion or input is useless. I've been crying since we left. I'm so hurt and I'm so angry and all I want is for my kids to be taken care of properly.