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<blockquote data-quote="AllStressedOut" data-source="post: 69009" data-attributes="member: 3837"><p>husband new halfway through the meeting with the new psychiatrist that this was the beginning of the end. He kept looking at me and rolling his eyes, but never said a word to the man.</p><p></p><p>I like the "Did you lose your paperwork" comment. I wish I would have thought of that. I was so taken aback by his question and implication. Later I even asked "Why are you so offended that I'm not their biological mother?" and he didn't answer. I'm not sure "offended" was the right word, but it was the only one I could get out of my mouth. I did good not to cry in his office. I wasn't going to give the man the satisfaction.</p><p></p><p>One more thing I forgot to mention, after hearing all the fuss over the furniture I thought for sure when I sat in his office it would be brand new. It was about 20 years old, the leather was an orangish brown and the arm of the chair was faded blue from wear and tear. There were tears in the leather from age. What was so important about this stuff that my kids couldn't pull their foot under them when having a seat? GEEZ!</p><p></p><p>I'm still shedding tears and I've run to Blockbuster to pick up some girl movies. I figure they will give me a good cry and I apparently need one. My feelings are just so hurt.</p><p></p><p>Years ago when we first started seeking legal help to keep them safe from bio mom, we met an attorney. After speaking with her, she said, I'm sorry, I can't take your case, she's not hurting them and until she does, there isn't anything anyone can do. She then proceeds to tell me "You're not their real mother and you never will be. You need to let this go. You need to not care so much." I was so hurt and so angry with this woman. That sense of not belonging, them to me and me to them, it's the worst thought someone can stick in your head or someone can think of you as a stepparent. These two people, that attorney and this psychiatrist, are the only two people who have ever made me feel like we didn't belong to each other.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AllStressedOut, post: 69009, member: 3837"] husband new halfway through the meeting with the new psychiatrist that this was the beginning of the end. He kept looking at me and rolling his eyes, but never said a word to the man. I like the "Did you lose your paperwork" comment. I wish I would have thought of that. I was so taken aback by his question and implication. Later I even asked "Why are you so offended that I'm not their biological mother?" and he didn't answer. I'm not sure "offended" was the right word, but it was the only one I could get out of my mouth. I did good not to cry in his office. I wasn't going to give the man the satisfaction. One more thing I forgot to mention, after hearing all the fuss over the furniture I thought for sure when I sat in his office it would be brand new. It was about 20 years old, the leather was an orangish brown and the arm of the chair was faded blue from wear and tear. There were tears in the leather from age. What was so important about this stuff that my kids couldn't pull their foot under them when having a seat? GEEZ! I'm still shedding tears and I've run to Blockbuster to pick up some girl movies. I figure they will give me a good cry and I apparently need one. My feelings are just so hurt. Years ago when we first started seeking legal help to keep them safe from bio mom, we met an attorney. After speaking with her, she said, I'm sorry, I can't take your case, she's not hurting them and until she does, there isn't anything anyone can do. She then proceeds to tell me "You're not their real mother and you never will be. You need to let this go. You need to not care so much." I was so hurt and so angry with this woman. That sense of not belonging, them to me and me to them, it's the worst thought someone can stick in your head or someone can think of you as a stepparent. These two people, that attorney and this psychiatrist, are the only two people who have ever made me feel like we didn't belong to each other. [/QUOTE]
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