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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 703027" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>My son, too, who was adopted by me when he was 22 months. So much of what he is dealing with (my child) relates to his feelings about his birth parents and what that relationships means, has meant--and blaming them and debasing himself, because of how they lived and how his life was damaged because of them.</p><p>My child is bi-racial, too, and I am white. My son identifies as white, but confused white.</p><p>While there are others here on CD who believe in the dominance of heredity and genetics, and I am not arguing one way or another, "bad" behavior does not mean "bad" person, or "bad" seed, in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>Children (and adults, too) act out due to pain, confusion, guilt, and for a host of other reasons. They do so to hurt themselves, lash out because they suffer, to seek attention, and to try to work through and work out their problems. While it may not make sense to us or to anybody else, it does not mean that they are bad, or that they will not get better, learn, and become caring and productive people.</p><p>Will Job Corps take a 17 year old? I think they might. Not because he is a "bad" kid, and needs to leave, but because he really seems like he might benefit from emancipating.</p><p></p><p>My son went to Job Corps when he was 18 or so. I have nothing but good things to say about it. It is free. They are supervised, fed, housed, and trained at very excellent trades, some of which are high-level.</p><p></p><p>Take care, mama.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 703027, member: 18958"] My son, too, who was adopted by me when he was 22 months. So much of what he is dealing with (my child) relates to his feelings about his birth parents and what that relationships means, has meant--and blaming them and debasing himself, because of how they lived and how his life was damaged because of them. My child is bi-racial, too, and I am white. My son identifies as white, but confused white. While there are others here on CD who believe in the dominance of heredity and genetics, and I am not arguing one way or another, "bad" behavior does not mean "bad" person, or "bad" seed, in my opinion. Children (and adults, too) act out due to pain, confusion, guilt, and for a host of other reasons. They do so to hurt themselves, lash out because they suffer, to seek attention, and to try to work through and work out their problems. While it may not make sense to us or to anybody else, it does not mean that they are bad, or that they will not get better, learn, and become caring and productive people. Will Job Corps take a 17 year old? I think they might. Not because he is a "bad" kid, and needs to leave, but because he really seems like he might benefit from emancipating. My son went to Job Corps when he was 18 or so. I have nothing but good things to say about it. It is free. They are supervised, fed, housed, and trained at very excellent trades, some of which are high-level. Take care, mama. [/QUOTE]
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