Oh my, do you live in my state, in my county? I know here things get very weird and bizarre. My difficult child once was at a dance at a moose-jaycees- elk- something place for middle schoolers and chaperones witnessed a boy harm her....they left difficult child at the dance, and sent police to come tell me she got "battered" but they cold not tell me who did it becuz he was a juvenile and had a "right to privacy" -----
Another time difficult child was at our theatre, I was next door in a meeting. she was 16. she had my son with her....she was smoking a cig outside, and cops came...asked her her name....(cop was not in uniform, she did not know what was going on) she gave a fake name...flipped the cig and went into theatre. A few mins later, cops in uniform burst into theatre, found her, took her out in handcuffs....took my son with them.....he was like 8 yrs old.....they did send a cop to come tell me they had taken my kids across town to police dept....they charged my difficult child with felony obstruction of justice for giving a false name...they took my son into "protective custody"- had him in a cell alone....I went immediately, they would not release my son to me until they were done processing difficult child.....and they could not process difficult child cuz the computer was down......we were there 9 hours.
AT court, the judge asked how my difficult child pled, she had a panic attack in court and could not answer....I said not guilty.judge said nope, she WILL plead guilty.and judge ordered a fine and a finding of guilty.
Approx a year later, difficult child was at a skate park here in town.....next thing, police were there, and she got arrested.for drinking. Detectives came to my house, got me, said difficult child had been at skate park, cops had had a pedophile under surveillance..the pedophile was passing out vodka in water bottles to kids- not telling them it was not water-......he handed one to my difficult child.she took a sip, spit it out, and handed it back and walked away......This is what the detectives told me.....then they told me in order to make charges stick on the pedophile, they still had to arest difficult child? HUH? even tho she did not know it was not water, even tho she did not even swallow it, according to the detectives......we got to court, and the judge again refused to accept a not guilty plea, found difficult child guilty and gave her a fine. Yeesh.
A couple years later- my then 11 yr old was..um.. a friend accused my 11 yr old and another 11 yr old of playing truth or dare? Ironically, according to detectives it was the "victims" idea to PLAY truth or dare......jokeingly one of the kids said "take off your clothes" as the "dare" and the "victim picked up a blanket, took off her clothes, and then laughed. the other kids said shhh do not laugh......the charges were.....obstruction of justice and sex offense. according to detectives noone forced anyone to do anything, noone even saw anything, noone touched anyone......and the offense happened 6 weeks before the "victim" said a word. Detectives and states attorney here said they handle charges against 11 yr olds in the police dept itself, not in court......so they booked my 11 yr old, fingerprinted him.....and put him on house arrest. after THAT..my then 16 yr old easy child began driving....was driving here in town.and some weirdo was out around town, throwing raw eggs at moving cars, and following the cars he was egging. He egged the front windsheild of our car while easy child was driving, and it obliterated her view and she almost crashed. He continued egging the car......her passenger called 911 on a cell........cops finally came.....turns out the guy had egged 3 other cars too......
Police decided that there were no charges to file against the guy doing the egging, even tho they caught him......at the scene, even....the egg ruined the finish on our car..and on the brand new van.(it was a very hot summer nite) becuz the police made all the victims wait at the police dept with their cars while they processed the guy who did it, and the egg baked on all the cars.
The police refused flat out to go with proerty damage, or vandalism......I was so mad saying it was dangerous.....a moving car and no visibility thru windsheild? Me and 2 of the other victims went to courthouse to try to force it thru, but states attorney would not do so.
Several years ago one of the classmates of difficult child in her Special Education class decided to target our house for massive vandalism events. he broke several windows, slashed our soft top on jeep multiple times.......3 times in one week.....eggs our freshly painted house while we were out of town, sugared gas tank on our brand new car.....put a dead animal in my SUV....and put used cat litter on my yard swing (it was a week old)
It dragged thru court over 2 years.......the kid confessed.but it still dragged thru court. He was found guilty, BUT judge refused to order restitution becuz he was a foster child, and judge sent him to juvvie.our ins refused to pay out saying no, the court had to order restitution.
Currently, I am attending court monthly on charges for a man who has been accused of molesting my easy child and 6 other kids...way back from 99 forward. My easy child and difficult child did actually make the accusation to school personnel way back in 1999 and 2000.....(they never told me) and it came out in court so far that the school dismissed the kids accusations and never called police.....one of the other victims said something again in 2004 or 2005? becuz it was ongoing and continuing......and the man was arrested then. (the accused was the father of one of the kids) Well, our lovely court system here? no trial date has been set YET......altho we go to court every single month, sometimes 2 or 3 times. they just keep continuing the case.
Dec 07 the court even refunded some of the mans bond money back to him! Originally bond had been $865,000. AND.......in 2006 he was twice rearrested for witness tampering.......and child porn..and then 3 times on drug charges? (Ironically, he is a professional, and a business owner and a church goer)
well, even tho he had been arrested since his original arrest? In Dec 07 he asked the judge to refund back some of his bond, becuz he just had a new baby! He said (well his lawyer said) look- this man has showed up in court for every court appearance so far....he is not a flight risk......and the judge refunded him back $35,000 CASH. reduced his bail by $350,000!!!!! I was so mad, I was like harumph, I have been here at EVERY court date, TOO...........and I have not been accused of ANYTHING. How come noone is giving ME any $$ ?? I simply do not understand all these continuances.
I do NOT understand the legal system here AT ALL. it boggles my mind entirely. I do not know why they play hardball with young kids or mentally ill ones or Special Education kids.......I often wonder if it makes them feel like a big shot to pick on the helpless. Grrrrrr. I also wonder if maybe the police and judges etc are maybe AFRAID of the REAL criminals. I dont know, but it sure is maddening.
I was told he's now my "go to guy" for info. Just wish one of the darn lawyers would have called me back....guess I'll be on the phone tomorrow morning.
