This may be long, just a warning. My family has an usual living situation. I own a home, but rent it out as we cannot afford to live in it due to medical and credit costs. My family lives in my mom's home with my sister, and my mom lives with my grandfather (her father) taking care of him. My estranged brother has a son whom my mom wants to stay in contact with, that makes sense. So once or twice a month I go stay with my grandfather so T and gma can come here to sleep. Seemed work fine. Then I had to take on more work and stay the night every Wednesday with an elderly lady. This is in addition to the 35 hrs I work else where and going to school part time. I also live with 2 bipolar people who depend on me more than I like. This term in school they are offering the class I have waited all year to take. Abnormal psychology. How could I not be interested in that ? The problem is that it is an evening class. I hate that, my family hates it. So I will have class Monday and Wednesday evenings(go straight from class to work on Wednesday) and then when T comes over I will be gone on Tuesday. With husband not doing well, this seems a recipe for disaster. T is a bit of a difficult child in his own right. He is a brat. He yells, is rude to adults, and thinks it is cute. My mom favors him as she feels bad for him as he was abused by my brothers ex girlfriend when T was 2yrs old. I can understand that, but he is 8 now. He needs some rules and it is not fair when he is over he has a completely different set of rules. My kids do not even like their cousin (the only one they know) as they see how he gets treated different. T tries to get difficult child in trouble, and husband is stuck between a rock and a hard place as I am gone when it happens and what guy does not have a problem addressing these kinds of issues with their mother in law? My sister does nothing to help mom care for grandfather. I got to md appts with them and fill his medication minder. I think she needs to step up to the plate, but gfather does not really like her as she is depressed(no health insurance means no treatment) and is very self centered. I think my mom is getting over stressed, (I love her but she cannot handle stress well) and that she needs to get some help and she needs to see her doctor and see about medication. She has always been this way, but now she is getting very critical. I am going to talk to my mom about this but am not looking forward to it. She thinks I am too hard on my sister, but give me a break. She works part time and goes to school. No kids, nothing.