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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 27741" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I know when my little guy first came to us (he was two) and tantrummed and hit and spat at us, I really could detach and think, "I've got to get the kid help." I don't recall ever taking it personally, but maybe that's because we adopted him and knew his behavior was so difficult that nobody else would even take a chance on him. As he got interventions, he greatly improved until his behavior isn't even an issue now, so that helped a lot. If you can focus off the behavior and try to find something that works--and it can take years--then the stabilized child likely won't be so verbally abusive or hit you. You may want to learn about detachment. I know there are links, but don't know where they are. When my son would say, "Hate you!" (he has delayed speech) I would try to calmly say, "Well, I love you." (I didn't always feel like saying it). It worked for my son. I don't know if it will help yours, but, hey, you can try...you may want to get into therapy to learn how to best deal with the situation. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 27741, member: 1550"] I know when my little guy first came to us (he was two) and tantrummed and hit and spat at us, I really could detach and think, "I've got to get the kid help." I don't recall ever taking it personally, but maybe that's because we adopted him and knew his behavior was so difficult that nobody else would even take a chance on him. As he got interventions, he greatly improved until his behavior isn't even an issue now, so that helped a lot. If you can focus off the behavior and try to find something that works--and it can take years--then the stabilized child likely won't be so verbally abusive or hit you. You may want to learn about detachment. I know there are links, but don't know where they are. When my son would say, "Hate you!" (he has delayed speech) I would try to calmly say, "Well, I love you." (I didn't always feel like saying it). It worked for my son. I don't know if it will help yours, but, hey, you can try...you may want to get into therapy to learn how to best deal with the situation. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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