This morning was the worst in a very long time. difficult child refused to go to school today, even after the threats of getting a probation officer and possibly going to juvenal hall, and after knowing her dad is threatening to take her away from me if she doesn't start going to school. When I woke her up for school, she said she had a headache. I told her she still needs to go to school even if she has a headache. The school has gotten to the point that they will not excuse any more of her absences unless we have a dr. note. I reminded difficult child of this. She insisted she was too sick to go to school and she wanted my mom to take her to the doctors. I told her that having a headache does not warrant her going to the doctors, and that the dr. would not excuse her for that reason. She insisted that my mom would take her to the doctors if she asked her to. I called my mom and put her on speaker phone. I explained the situation to her in hopes that she could calm difficult child down, who was at this point screaming and crying, and get her to make difficult child go to school. difficult child kept up with her crying and insisted she was not going to school, even after my mom explained to her that she was not going to pick her up and take her to the doctors. It was at this point that easy child started having his own meltdown. He hates to be late for school or daycare for any reason. At this point if we didn't hurry up and get in the car, we were going to be late. He started screaming at me, telling me to leave difficult child home and get him to school. I told him I needed more time to convince her to go to school. He then started throwing things and slamming the doors repeatedly. I told him to stop but he didn't listen. I ended up hanging up with my mom cause she couldn't convince difficult child to go to school. I started to call her dad, because in the IEP her dad stated that when she refuses to go, I can call him in the morning to talk to difficult child. Her dad is a lot more strict than I am, and just hearing his voice gets her to do what she is told. Once difficult child saw I was dialing her dad's number, she freaked out. Started screaming and crying and begging me not to call him. I told her I had no other choice but to ask for his help. She then pushed me and ripped the phone out of my hand. I tried getting the phone back from her but she is bigger and stronger than me. The whole time we were fighting easy child was also screaming for me to get him to school. I finally and to leave her there and take easy child who was having his own fit. I told difficult child that her dad was going to be super mad at her if she didn't go to school and he found out about this whole scene. It was my last ditch effort to get her in the car. She still refused, so I left and took easy child to school. I then called the attendance office at Cat's school and asked if they could send a truant officer over to pick her up. The lady told me that they don't do that at this school. I then told her that something needs to be done because difficult child needs to go to school. She told me she would have a talk with someone higher up than her and give me a call back. That was two and a half hours ago. I still haven't heard back. Meanwhile, my mom went behind my back and emailed Cat's dad. She told him about everything that happened this morning. She asked him to please not get mad at me and take it out on me. I did all I could. So far he hasn't answered his email. I am at work now, and axiously awaiting to hear his response, if he even responds. Remember my mom emailed him on Friday and told him he has been kept in the dark about the kids' issues so far because I am afraid he will threaten me and get angry. He never responded to that email. So he may not respond to this one. Or he may email me directly and get angry with me. I am really worried. There is only three days left till our Christmas vacation and I was hoping the kids wouldn't give me any trouble this week. I really hope my ex doesn't take this out on me. I am doing all I can and I'm at the end of my rope. I wish difficult child could see what she is doing to herself and our whole family. But she doesn't care. How do I force her to do what she's supposed to when she refuses?