I am so freaked out and upset that she asked J. if Jumper is going to Thanksgiving, that I found her Facebook and wrote a response. God knows if she will even read it. I am tempted to send the same response through the mail just so she gets the message. Do you feel this is ok? J's Mom, Any visits to your house by Jumper is not up to J and Jumper, but must be cleared with my husband and I via a phone call which makes us feel that she is safe with your family. As of right now, we do not feel she is safe in your care. If you wish to have a discussion about it, it is best for B. to call husband and explain how he has changed his mind about our daughter and how she is now accepted. An apology would be good as she did not deserve his yelling at her. If you wish, you may also call me. But Jumper will not be allowed to go to your house unless we reach a strong understanding, as the welfare of our daughter is very important to us. We will not read any responding e-mails or mailed letters. Our family communicates by talking. So if you are interested in our allowing Jumper to visit you, please have B. call hub at (cell phone) or, if you want, call me at (my cell phone). If you don't wish to do this then Jumper will never be allowed at your house due to past treatment of her by your family.This is not a friend request, just a response to your question if Jumper will spend Thanksgiving with you. Asking J. is inappropriate. It's not up to him or up to Jumper, who is afraid to go anyway. by the way, we adore J. He is a great young man. Now I have a question. I don't use FB much. Do you guys usually read your messages? I want to make sure she gets it and she uses her FB a lot. I never check my messages. I feel as if I'm falling apart from all this garbage and I want her to get the message! Do you feel that I explained myself well?Should I also mail it via snail mail? I don't want to overdo. Or underdo.