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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 662583" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I have another take on this. I think it may have touched a guilty nerve in him, and he reacted from that.</p><p>In a later post SWOT says kids get entitled if we over indulge them. I too think the ball is in your court, Nomad. Cut back with all of the freebies. This may be creating an imbalance in the relationship. Your son is saying, I think, that he does not feel good with the imbalance in the relationship, and does not feel good to feel obligated to reciprocate. </p><p></p><p>That he is indirectly telling you that, I think, is a good thing. You need to know that from gifts there are often unintended consequences, apart from those intended.</p><p>I think the bite me comment is weird. But what can or should you do about it? All of the important boxes are checked off. Someday he will either see it as inappropriate or become embarrassed and change. Until then, leave it alone, I think.</p><p>Absolutely. </p><p>I agree. The thing is, anybody with kids gets their feelings hurt. While we would like reciprocity, we cannot control whether we get it. And you and your husband did your part in setting up a disequilibrium that your son seems to resent. You will change this. Let it go. </p><p></p><p>Your son is who he chooses to be. Most of it is good. Keep your eyes on the ball, Nomad. I would be very proud of him. I know you are.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 662583, member: 18958"] I have another take on this. I think it may have touched a guilty nerve in him, and he reacted from that. In a later post SWOT says kids get entitled if we over indulge them. I too think the ball is in your court, Nomad. Cut back with all of the freebies. This may be creating an imbalance in the relationship. Your son is saying, I think, that he does not feel good with the imbalance in the relationship, and does not feel good to feel obligated to reciprocate. That he is indirectly telling you that, I think, is a good thing. You need to know that from gifts there are often unintended consequences, apart from those intended. I think the bite me comment is weird. But what can or should you do about it? All of the important boxes are checked off. Someday he will either see it as inappropriate or become embarrassed and change. Until then, leave it alone, I think. Absolutely. I agree. The thing is, anybody with kids gets their feelings hurt. While we would like reciprocity, we cannot control whether we get it. And you and your husband did your part in setting up a disequilibrium that your son seems to resent. You will change this. Let it go. Your son is who he chooses to be. Most of it is good. Keep your eyes on the ball, Nomad. I would be very proud of him. I know you are. [/QUOTE]
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