My 19 year old son came to celebrate his younger brother's 17th birthday tonight. He moved in with his girlfriend this summer after we found out about his marijuana use. Lots of paraphenilia and such. I know he is still using it. Because I check his twitter account occasionally and he posts memes glorifying it. I want to tell him not to do that because it will hurt his future work career. But i don't because I know he will know I check this. Anyway, he has not been in trouble yet. I don't know how he has avoided it. I took his car last Spring. He bought a junker. He and this girlfriend work together at Mcdonalds and he is going to college two nights a week and taking some online classes. I don't know if he uses anything else but in the spring he was tested twice and just tested positive for pot. I asked about his car. He says he has to keep putting air in the tires and it won't back up well. I have a perfectly good car parked in my driveway I could give him. This car doesn't sound safe. I feel guilty. What if something happens to him because of this car. But he smelled of pot when he came in and hugged me tonight. I think if he has to have it before he comes over here he must use it everyday. I am still shocked this is my son doing this. He says, " I don't drive my car much." They ride together. I had hoped they would find living together too costly and he would move back home and have to abide by my rules. Not so far. This girl who I have never smelled pot on, yet she doesn't hug me, I'm amazed is OK with this. Her grandma is letting them live in a trailer she owns rent free. Thanks grandma. Takes all my power away He seems content with this going nowhere life. I don't know. I know it pales in comparison to some of your stories. But I don't know what to do. I told my husband, who is not his father, he smelled like pot. He asked me if I said anything. I didn't because, what could I say. I am not supporting him. Should I have? I don't know. How do we handle this? Wait it out? Pray every night. Anyway I had to vent to you guys because I know you understand.