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<blockquote data-quote="Billiesue" data-source="post: 720917" data-attributes="member: 21852"><p>i appreciate all the comments. Pasajes. I read what you wrote. I'll admit it does make me feel better when you point out these things. I was single with my two sons for 6 years, before I married my second husband. He hid this girl from me for 2 years. She is biracial and he thought I wouldn't approve. I'm sure that may spark some debate. I couldn't understand why he no longer brought anyone home. I found out about her when I started talking to his biological father about my suspicions of him using drugs. I told him I knew about her the same day his father and I tested him for the first time. I told him I was sorry he didn't feel like he could tell me this and she was welcome in my house. Shortly after, my husband and I would be awakened to the smell of pot being smoked coming from his basement room. His younger brother's room is down there as well. We had rounds over this and then he came home one night with the girlfriend.I heard him yelling at her, "Get the F out of my car." I intervened. He was drunk. I don't think high that night but who knows. When I started to question him he said he was leaving. I told him he was not in that car because it was in my name. He then proceeded to walk on foot barefoot through neck high weeds and woods. ( Girlfriend trails in after him while I go to get my keys to my car to follow him up the driveway. Middle of summer. Snakes crawling. Two kids in the woods.) He gets gone. He is still gone the next morning. I finally call the police to find him. He moves in with Dad and doesn't speak to me for a while. He finally comes around and then tells me he is moving in with girlfriend. I knew my kids would grow up and leave. But this was not the picture I had painted in my head. This all took place in such a short period of time. I rarely see him. I don't know what all he is doing. Last year at this time I didn't know he did drugs. Didn't know he had a girlfriend and had high hopes for his future. Now I imagine teen pregnancy. He just turned 19 in August. A life of paying child support. A girl who is OK with drug use from him so probably would be OK with any man who would be around my future grandchildren. He is taking graphic design at the community college. I'm not sure how much of a living he could make. I could be wrong. I despartely miss him. Although it was not fun living with him when I knew this was going on. It was awful. So you may be right about the battle of wills. And I'm so afraid something will happen to him in that car. And by the way, the girl is a beautiful sweet girl. She seems smart. She is taking classes to be a legal secretary. Not at all someone who you would think would tolerate drug use. As far as figuring it out. I don't think they would be able to do this without grandma's letting them live there. So I think he may be getting a false sense of what it takes. Truth is I do pretty well if I stay off his Twitter. But when he comes over and I smell that familiar smell. I feel a sense of dread and I want to talk to you guys!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Billiesue, post: 720917, member: 21852"] i appreciate all the comments. Pasajes. I read what you wrote. I'll admit it does make me feel better when you point out these things. I was single with my two sons for 6 years, before I married my second husband. He hid this girl from me for 2 years. She is biracial and he thought I wouldn't approve. I'm sure that may spark some debate. I couldn't understand why he no longer brought anyone home. I found out about her when I started talking to his biological father about my suspicions of him using drugs. I told him I knew about her the same day his father and I tested him for the first time. I told him I was sorry he didn't feel like he could tell me this and she was welcome in my house. Shortly after, my husband and I would be awakened to the smell of pot being smoked coming from his basement room. His younger brother's room is down there as well. We had rounds over this and then he came home one night with the girlfriend.I heard him yelling at her, "Get the F out of my car." I intervened. He was drunk. I don't think high that night but who knows. When I started to question him he said he was leaving. I told him he was not in that car because it was in my name. He then proceeded to walk on foot barefoot through neck high weeds and woods. ( Girlfriend trails in after him while I go to get my keys to my car to follow him up the driveway. Middle of summer. Snakes crawling. Two kids in the woods.) He gets gone. He is still gone the next morning. I finally call the police to find him. He moves in with Dad and doesn't speak to me for a while. He finally comes around and then tells me he is moving in with girlfriend. I knew my kids would grow up and leave. But this was not the picture I had painted in my head. This all took place in such a short period of time. I rarely see him. I don't know what all he is doing. Last year at this time I didn't know he did drugs. Didn't know he had a girlfriend and had high hopes for his future. Now I imagine teen pregnancy. He just turned 19 in August. A life of paying child support. A girl who is OK with drug use from him so probably would be OK with any man who would be around my future grandchildren. He is taking graphic design at the community college. I'm not sure how much of a living he could make. I could be wrong. I despartely miss him. Although it was not fun living with him when I knew this was going on. It was awful. So you may be right about the battle of wills. And I'm so afraid something will happen to him in that car. And by the way, the girl is a beautiful sweet girl. She seems smart. She is taking classes to be a legal secretary. Not at all someone who you would think would tolerate drug use. As far as figuring it out. I don't think they would be able to do this without grandma's letting them live there. So I think he may be getting a false sense of what it takes. Truth is I do pretty well if I stay off his Twitter. But when he comes over and I smell that familiar smell. I feel a sense of dread and I want to talk to you guys! [/QUOTE]
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