difficult child has been away at rehab since the end of October. Right now he is in a halfway house with IOP 3 days a week. We decided to fly down to visit him for Christmas. I think it was a mistake to come visit him. He's not at his worst but I honestly don't think he's going to be any different once he completes this program in May (Assuming he finishes it.) I don't think drugs are difficult child's biggest problem even though he almost died from an overdose. I think there is either a mental health/personality disorder which as far as I can tell aren't being treated and may not be treatable. There are small things that are better he doesn't seem as angry at us as he is sometimes but its like he just checks out and we can't draw him into any conversations. A week and half ago his counselor was concerned because he wasn't looking for a job and wasn't going to AA or NA meetings. He has since gone to two AA meetings and while we were here we drove by a place that said help wanted and when we asked about applying he went in and talked to them which is something difficult child has never done before. He would need a car for that position so it wasn't a possibility. I don't know its hard to not want to push him to look for a job but he just completely shuts down when bring it up. If he doesn't get a job then I think he will eventually get kicked out. We have seen red flags while here when he using my laptop he was looking at sunglass store online which I think the only reason he would want sunglasses is to hide drug use. Also we heard something about a girl coming to visit at 2 in the morning which I don't think would normally be allowable at most halfway houses. Its hard I tried to keep my expectations very low for the visit but even with low expectations it is hard not to be disappointed.