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<blockquote data-quote="Tired Mom" data-source="post: 644091" data-attributes="member: 18222"><p>So I it turns out I read to much into my son's text messages. On Friday he texted "I pretty much got a job today". We responded Oh good did you have an interview today when do you find out if you will get the job and he replied I will find out on Monday and then we asked me the name of the place and what type of job. Well it turns out his roommate works at the place and told him about the open interviews this place was having. He didn't really pretty much have a job on Friday he had an interview today during an open interview time. I am not sure he will get this job and it might be for the best. This is a bar that serves food and the owner told him that they don't normally higher people who aren't at least 21. difficult child will be 21 in March and the owner said he would think about it and would let him know in about a week. I am guessing the owner is waiting to see if he an find someone that doesn't have an age issue (or difficult child issue). Also this bar is open until 2 in the morning. I know neither myself or my husband would want to be outside in the neighborhood of the halfway house at that time. I had read online that there are gangs in his neighborhood and that is what it looked like we were seeing when we there at night. I am not sure that a bar is the best place for an addict to be working. Sigh he's never really had to look for a job before so I am sure he thought this would just be an immediate hire like his other jobs. I guess the good news was that he actually went for the interview. There was at least a little bit of effort. When I talked to him today he had just finished going to his intensive outpatient treatment and he was in a good mood. I told him about two more places very close to his halfway house that were having open interviews. He seemed interested and I hope he follows up on them. He really has enjoyed the jobs he has had in the past. I know he wants a job but he is his own worse enemy.</p><p>It sounds like he will only going to intensive out patient once a week starting this week instead of 3. I wish it wasn't dropping off already. He really seems to enjoy going to intensive outpatient treatment. Previously he was supposed to go 3 days a week from 5-7 pm but he would show up at the center around 11am on the days he was supposed to go and they would let him stay. </p><p> </p><p>I haven't asked about the AA or NA meetings next time I talk to him I will have to ask.</p><p>I don't know if he really got into the pattern or if he stopped going. The two times that he definitely went he seemed proud to tell us.</p><p></p><p>I love him. As much as I want to I can't fix this. It is one day at a time. Even if he doesn't find a job before the halfway house time is up I think he is better off there then here. His old friends live so close to us I know that if he comes back home he will end up hooking up with them and since they are all addicts they will encourage him to use again. May is when he is supposed to be done with half way and it will be here incredibly quickly. Rent is so expensive here like $1,200 a month for a really cruddy place. Finding a place for him after half way is going to be difficult. If he didn't have legal problems I would consider getting started out in a small apartment in the Midwest where all of our family are that could occasionally check on him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tired Mom, post: 644091, member: 18222"] So I it turns out I read to much into my son's text messages. On Friday he texted "I pretty much got a job today". We responded Oh good did you have an interview today when do you find out if you will get the job and he replied I will find out on Monday and then we asked me the name of the place and what type of job. Well it turns out his roommate works at the place and told him about the open interviews this place was having. He didn't really pretty much have a job on Friday he had an interview today during an open interview time. I am not sure he will get this job and it might be for the best. This is a bar that serves food and the owner told him that they don't normally higher people who aren't at least 21. difficult child will be 21 in March and the owner said he would think about it and would let him know in about a week. I am guessing the owner is waiting to see if he an find someone that doesn't have an age issue (or difficult child issue). Also this bar is open until 2 in the morning. I know neither myself or my husband would want to be outside in the neighborhood of the halfway house at that time. I had read online that there are gangs in his neighborhood and that is what it looked like we were seeing when we there at night. I am not sure that a bar is the best place for an addict to be working. Sigh he's never really had to look for a job before so I am sure he thought this would just be an immediate hire like his other jobs. I guess the good news was that he actually went for the interview. There was at least a little bit of effort. When I talked to him today he had just finished going to his intensive outpatient treatment and he was in a good mood. I told him about two more places very close to his halfway house that were having open interviews. He seemed interested and I hope he follows up on them. He really has enjoyed the jobs he has had in the past. I know he wants a job but he is his own worse enemy. It sounds like he will only going to intensive out patient once a week starting this week instead of 3. I wish it wasn't dropping off already. He really seems to enjoy going to intensive outpatient treatment. Previously he was supposed to go 3 days a week from 5-7 pm but he would show up at the center around 11am on the days he was supposed to go and they would let him stay. I haven't asked about the AA or NA meetings next time I talk to him I will have to ask. I don't know if he really got into the pattern or if he stopped going. The two times that he definitely went he seemed proud to tell us. I love him. As much as I want to I can't fix this. It is one day at a time. Even if he doesn't find a job before the halfway house time is up I think he is better off there then here. His old friends live so close to us I know that if he comes back home he will end up hooking up with them and since they are all addicts they will encourage him to use again. May is when he is supposed to be done with half way and it will be here incredibly quickly. Rent is so expensive here like $1,200 a month for a really cruddy place. Finding a place for him after half way is going to be difficult. If he didn't have legal problems I would consider getting started out in a small apartment in the Midwest where all of our family are that could occasionally check on him. [/QUOTE]
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