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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 34740" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>LOL, Mikey, I don't know that deluded is the term I was going to use. What I was going to mention is that "most", and obviously that isn't "all" kids to turn to drugs as a way of self-medicating. Getting to the root cause is the best way to help stop the addiction. That being said, drugging is still drugging.</p><p></p><p>My son self-medicated as well. Pot wasn't the main issue, but he was smoking pot, which is drugging. He had been diagnosed with ADHD at about age 7, then Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) (obsessive compulsive disorder) at age 13. Add some depression in there (which in my humble opinion, stemmed from the pot smoking), and there was trouble. If he was getting high all the time, he couldn't get up to go to school, his moods were all over the place. He wasn't very pleasant to live with. </p><p></p><p>This is why I always suggested dual-diagnostic treatment facilities to people. Just dealing with the addiction usually isn't enough. You need to deal with the underlying cause and the substance abuse separately, and ultimately, together. </p><p></p><p>As I said, we all do what we can live with. I just wouldn't accept drugging. That was a huge issue for me - perhaps because I'd watched my mom enable my older alcoholic brother for so many years. I knew that I was not willing to live like that, and therefore, would not tolerate my son doing what he was doing. If I couldn't stop my son from going out and getting high while living in my home, then we made other arrangements - the two Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stays. He wasn't really given a choice in the matter.</p><p></p><p>Many of our kids on here had/have goals also. My son, like many on here, has a gifted IQ. That doesn't mean squat in the real world if you're going to go out and drug and break the law. He never finished high school because of all the absences and because of changing schools 3 times in an effort to make things better. He lost too many credits. He did go for his GED a year after he should have graduated, which is the earliest you can take it here in Michigan (I think they don't want kids to leave high school and taking the GED instead, so they make them wait). He was also a vey gifted hockey player, but threw that all away too. Now when he sees some of his old teammates playing in the NHL, he shakes his head and realizes what he threw away. Goals and dreams came and went because of drugs.</p><p></p><p>Trust me, I'm certainly not passing any judgements. As I've repeated over and over, every person is different, and every scenario is different. We all do what we feel is best for our situation. I am also pulling for your son to turn things around and fully support your efforts.</p><p></p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 34740, member: 27"] LOL, Mikey, I don't know that deluded is the term I was going to use. What I was going to mention is that "most", and obviously that isn't "all" kids to turn to drugs as a way of self-medicating. Getting to the root cause is the best way to help stop the addiction. That being said, drugging is still drugging. My son self-medicated as well. Pot wasn't the main issue, but he was smoking pot, which is drugging. He had been diagnosed with ADHD at about age 7, then Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) (obsessive compulsive disorder) at age 13. Add some depression in there (which in my humble opinion, stemmed from the pot smoking), and there was trouble. If he was getting high all the time, he couldn't get up to go to school, his moods were all over the place. He wasn't very pleasant to live with. This is why I always suggested dual-diagnostic treatment facilities to people. Just dealing with the addiction usually isn't enough. You need to deal with the underlying cause and the substance abuse separately, and ultimately, together. As I said, we all do what we can live with. I just wouldn't accept drugging. That was a huge issue for me - perhaps because I'd watched my mom enable my older alcoholic brother for so many years. I knew that I was not willing to live like that, and therefore, would not tolerate my son doing what he was doing. If I couldn't stop my son from going out and getting high while living in my home, then we made other arrangements - the two Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stays. He wasn't really given a choice in the matter. Many of our kids on here had/have goals also. My son, like many on here, has a gifted IQ. That doesn't mean squat in the real world if you're going to go out and drug and break the law. He never finished high school because of all the absences and because of changing schools 3 times in an effort to make things better. He lost too many credits. He did go for his GED a year after he should have graduated, which is the earliest you can take it here in Michigan (I think they don't want kids to leave high school and taking the GED instead, so they make them wait). He was also a vey gifted hockey player, but threw that all away too. Now when he sees some of his old teammates playing in the NHL, he shakes his head and realizes what he threw away. Goals and dreams came and went because of drugs. Trust me, I'm certainly not passing any judgements. As I've repeated over and over, every person is different, and every scenario is different. We all do what we feel is best for our situation. I am also pulling for your son to turn things around and fully support your efforts. Deb [/QUOTE]
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