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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 34926" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Thanks Terryforvols. What more can I add to what you said?</p><p></p><p>In the short term, I don't think there will be any SA issues, and prom's only a few days away. He's still getting over mono, and the docs seem to be the only ones who can scare him into avoiding certain self-destructive behaviors. Longer term, I guess we'll see how it plays out.</p><p></p><p>I will say, though, that his therapist has already said that if difficult child starts any backwards slide with SA, then we schedule an intervention with his doctor, his girlfriend (if she's willing), and anyone else we can find who truly cares about him - all with the intent of getting him to go to Residential Treatment Center (RTC).</p><p></p><p>As an aside, I saw an episode of "Intervention" on A&E a few months ago. The interventionist, just before the addict was brought in, told the group "All we want to hear is that he'll go to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). We don't care why. Once we hear that, we're done - out the door, on the way to the plane that will bring him to the center. We just want him to agree - nothing more".</p><p></p><p>That's kind of how I feel. If it comes to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) (and it may), my hope is that he can be convinced to go willingly. If he doesn't go willingly, then I guess he'll either go unwillingly or will run away. </p><p></p><p>But to quote "W", that's the "nucular" option that we don't want to use unless we absolutely have to. </p><p></p><p>It's a line that - once crossed - completely changes the dynamic of our family, our relationship, and how he views both us and his world. If we go down that path, he will cease to see us as family and lump us in with the rest of the zombies that don't live in his world. There will be no more trust, only combat, defiance, and antagonism, and we'll be in less of a position to help him than we are now (he'll be 18 in 6 months).</p><p></p><p>If that happens, maybe his perspective will change later, but in the beginning it will be hell for everyone - so we keep involuntary Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and other "extreme" measures as a last resort. </p><p></p><p>Again, we're just not there yet, but are keeping a close eye on the situation (along with random UA's), and are ready to do what's necessary when the time comes.</p><p></p><p>Thanks,</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 34926, member: 3579"] Thanks Terryforvols. What more can I add to what you said? In the short term, I don't think there will be any SA issues, and prom's only a few days away. He's still getting over mono, and the docs seem to be the only ones who can scare him into avoiding certain self-destructive behaviors. Longer term, I guess we'll see how it plays out. I will say, though, that his therapist has already said that if difficult child starts any backwards slide with SA, then we schedule an intervention with his doctor, his girlfriend (if she's willing), and anyone else we can find who truly cares about him - all with the intent of getting him to go to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). As an aside, I saw an episode of "Intervention" on A&E a few months ago. The interventionist, just before the addict was brought in, told the group "All we want to hear is that he'll go to Residential Treatment Center (RTC). We don't care why. Once we hear that, we're done - out the door, on the way to the plane that will bring him to the center. We just want him to agree - nothing more". That's kind of how I feel. If it comes to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) (and it may), my hope is that he can be convinced to go willingly. If he doesn't go willingly, then I guess he'll either go unwillingly or will run away. But to quote "W", that's the "nucular" option that we don't want to use unless we absolutely have to. It's a line that - once crossed - completely changes the dynamic of our family, our relationship, and how he views both us and his world. If we go down that path, he will cease to see us as family and lump us in with the rest of the zombies that don't live in his world. There will be no more trust, only combat, defiance, and antagonism, and we'll be in less of a position to help him than we are now (he'll be 18 in 6 months). If that happens, maybe his perspective will change later, but in the beginning it will be hell for everyone - so we keep involuntary Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and other "extreme" measures as a last resort. Again, we're just not there yet, but are keeping a close eye on the situation (along with random UA's), and are ready to do what's necessary when the time comes. Thanks, Mikey [/QUOTE]
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