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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 34927" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi All,</p><p>we sent our dtr (difficult child 1) to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) just before she turned 16--nothing was working at home. She was skipping school nearly every day, drinking alcohol on and off school grounds, doing other drugs, not coming home, etc.--just totally out of control. She was diagnosed with ADHD and depression, Borderline (BPD) traits. She was at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for nearly 9 months, did very well there with the structure and therapy, etc. She came home because we could not afford to send her on to a therapeutic boarding school. We did send her to a very small private school in our community rather than back to the big high school she had been in. She gradually went back to her old ways and after about 4 months she was worse than ever.</p><p></p><p>After spending the summer (by now she was 17) on a PINS and violating every part of it she finally was arrested and court ordered to a dual diagnosis facility (we insisted on dual diagnosis). Oh, this was after she spent 3 weeks at a shortterm rehab and 1 month at a sort of group home (she said she was suicidal and they wouldn't keep her there). She also had been in respite foster care after she finished the shortterm rehab because we knew we couldn't keep her safe at home, she would be right back on the streets.</p><p></p><p>Okay, so she spent 4 months at the court ordered rehab and did very well there. She got her GED and was their star student. As soon as she got the GED though she decided she had had enough of rehabs and therapy and just quit cooperating. They made us come get her because she was disrupting the whole place. Of course this was a violation of her probation but we had to go get her. She convinced us she was ready to get a job, go to college, etc. and we let her come home. She did none of those things but she did leave our house shortly before she turned 18 (was home about 2 months) and I guess that was the turning point for her.</p><p></p><p>What this very long, drawn-out story is getting to is that we forced her to get help many times and I think it ultimately did help her but not until she wanted to change herself. She seemed to really "get it" while she was at her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and in the various rehabs--she was always so cooperative and could really talk the talk--she had everyone convinced, including the therapists who had seen it all. I don't know the extent of her drug and alcohol use at this time except that I know she smokes pot. I don't think she does any heavier drugs and according to her she used to do them all. She says she doesn't like alcohol all that well. She is not depressed and doesn't display so many Borderline (BPD) traits anymore. I don't think she actually has ADHD. She can work and take care of herself and is very pleasant to our family now. Who knows what would have happened without all our intervention before she left home. Maybe she would be in the same place, maybe not. The only thing I know for sure is that she would never do anything we wanted her to do--very ODD. Now that we no longer "control" her she is deciding to make better decisions about her life--but they are her decisions and not ours.</p><p></p><p>For what it's worth, sorry for the rambling!</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 34927, member: 3450"] Hi All, we sent our dtr (difficult child 1) to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) just before she turned 16--nothing was working at home. She was skipping school nearly every day, drinking alcohol on and off school grounds, doing other drugs, not coming home, etc.--just totally out of control. She was diagnosed with ADHD and depression, Borderline (BPD) traits. She was at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for nearly 9 months, did very well there with the structure and therapy, etc. She came home because we could not afford to send her on to a therapeutic boarding school. We did send her to a very small private school in our community rather than back to the big high school she had been in. She gradually went back to her old ways and after about 4 months she was worse than ever. After spending the summer (by now she was 17) on a PINS and violating every part of it she finally was arrested and court ordered to a dual diagnosis facility (we insisted on dual diagnosis). Oh, this was after she spent 3 weeks at a shortterm rehab and 1 month at a sort of group home (she said she was suicidal and they wouldn't keep her there). She also had been in respite foster care after she finished the shortterm rehab because we knew we couldn't keep her safe at home, she would be right back on the streets. Okay, so she spent 4 months at the court ordered rehab and did very well there. She got her GED and was their star student. As soon as she got the GED though she decided she had had enough of rehabs and therapy and just quit cooperating. They made us come get her because she was disrupting the whole place. Of course this was a violation of her probation but we had to go get her. She convinced us she was ready to get a job, go to college, etc. and we let her come home. She did none of those things but she did leave our house shortly before she turned 18 (was home about 2 months) and I guess that was the turning point for her. What this very long, drawn-out story is getting to is that we forced her to get help many times and I think it ultimately did help her but not until she wanted to change herself. She seemed to really "get it" while she was at her Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and in the various rehabs--she was always so cooperative and could really talk the talk--she had everyone convinced, including the therapists who had seen it all. I don't know the extent of her drug and alcohol use at this time except that I know she smokes pot. I don't think she does any heavier drugs and according to her she used to do them all. She says she doesn't like alcohol all that well. She is not depressed and doesn't display so many Borderline (BPD) traits anymore. I don't think she actually has ADHD. She can work and take care of herself and is very pleasant to our family now. Who knows what would have happened without all our intervention before she left home. Maybe she would be in the same place, maybe not. The only thing I know for sure is that she would never do anything we wanted her to do--very ODD. Now that we no longer "control" her she is deciding to make better decisions about her life--but they are her decisions and not ours. For what it's worth, sorry for the rambling! Jane [/QUOTE]
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