Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Waiting for the rain to start....
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="KFld" data-source="post: 35093" data-attributes="member: 2442"><p>It sounds like Mikey is open to options, if he feels the way him and wife are approaching things doesn't work. I remember, as I'm sure a lot of you will, the confusion of what is right and wrong when you first get into this mess. Reading his posts brings me back to when my difficult child was 15 and just smoking pot. I remember trying to keep him from certain friends that I felt were the bad influence on him, just to find out years later, he was probably the bad influence on some of them, or just as guilty I should say. They all make the choices of who they are going to hang with and what they are and aren't going to participate in. I'm sure nobody held my son down and forced a joint in his mouth and told him he had to continue doing it everyday or else! I also remember thinking that he would grow out of it just like I did. Yes I was a big huge pothead in highschool and I grew out of it and I remember many discussions with my husband, who I was smoking pot with in highschool :smile: and the two of us saying, he's a smart kid, he'll grow out of it. </p><p></p><p>I also remember when we first suspected he was using heroin and before we had proof we kept thinking, if he is he's smart, he'll stop. Then when he got arrested for posession of heroin the first time and admitted he had a problem, we sent him to rehab. I joined alanon and listened to the parents talk who had learned to detatch and had asked their kids to leave their homes because of their drug use, and I remember saying, I will never do that no matter what my son does. That was about 2 months before I threw him out. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child is now 6 months clean after many rehabs and lives in a soberhouse never to live in our home again. He is happy right now, working and loves us and respects us for the choices we made. He doesn't hate us or disprespect us for it, but I think it's because he's ready to make the choices and changes he has been making in his life.</p><p></p><p>What I am trying to get at is that we have all been there done that, at least I know I have. I went through the denial stage, the stage of believing he would grow out of it, the stage of having to detatch and then the stage of accepting my son was a drug addict and that there was nothing I could do for him. He had to do it himself.</p><p></p><p>Mikey, this entire thing is a process that we all learn and grow from. Some of our stories turn out better then others. I pray what you are doing for your son does work and he turns his life around before it gets any worse, and I also pray that you have the strength to do what you need to if he doesn't turn it around by himself.</p><p></p><p>We want you to learn from what we have been through, but I also understand what point you are at now because I remember being there. If you feel what you are doing has a chance of working and you are seeing progress, then follow your heart. Just be strong enough to do whatever it takes if, as you say, he starts going south.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KFld, post: 35093, member: 2442"] It sounds like Mikey is open to options, if he feels the way him and wife are approaching things doesn't work. I remember, as I'm sure a lot of you will, the confusion of what is right and wrong when you first get into this mess. Reading his posts brings me back to when my difficult child was 15 and just smoking pot. I remember trying to keep him from certain friends that I felt were the bad influence on him, just to find out years later, he was probably the bad influence on some of them, or just as guilty I should say. They all make the choices of who they are going to hang with and what they are and aren't going to participate in. I'm sure nobody held my son down and forced a joint in his mouth and told him he had to continue doing it everyday or else! I also remember thinking that he would grow out of it just like I did. Yes I was a big huge pothead in highschool and I grew out of it and I remember many discussions with my husband, who I was smoking pot with in highschool [img]:smile:[/img] and the two of us saying, he's a smart kid, he'll grow out of it. I also remember when we first suspected he was using heroin and before we had proof we kept thinking, if he is he's smart, he'll stop. Then when he got arrested for posession of heroin the first time and admitted he had a problem, we sent him to rehab. I joined alanon and listened to the parents talk who had learned to detatch and had asked their kids to leave their homes because of their drug use, and I remember saying, I will never do that no matter what my son does. That was about 2 months before I threw him out. My difficult child is now 6 months clean after many rehabs and lives in a soberhouse never to live in our home again. He is happy right now, working and loves us and respects us for the choices we made. He doesn't hate us or disprespect us for it, but I think it's because he's ready to make the choices and changes he has been making in his life. What I am trying to get at is that we have all been there done that, at least I know I have. I went through the denial stage, the stage of believing he would grow out of it, the stage of having to detatch and then the stage of accepting my son was a drug addict and that there was nothing I could do for him. He had to do it himself. Mikey, this entire thing is a process that we all learn and grow from. Some of our stories turn out better then others. I pray what you are doing for your son does work and he turns his life around before it gets any worse, and I also pray that you have the strength to do what you need to if he doesn't turn it around by himself. We want you to learn from what we have been through, but I also understand what point you are at now because I remember being there. If you feel what you are doing has a chance of working and you are seeing progress, then follow your heart. Just be strong enough to do whatever it takes if, as you say, he starts going south. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Waiting for the rain to start....
Top