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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 701399" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>Hi Colleen.</p><p>I have wondered if you were "holding your own". Sounds like much progress for you.</p><p></p><p>I do find getting back to or beginning new things is key to becoming mentally healthy again. Mostly I believe I have been helped by getting out of myself and becoming involved with other people and projects but I still need to do more. Getting to this point also makes me realize what a basket case I was a 8 months ago.</p><p></p><p></p><p>My husband and I remind ourselves of this over and over...the lies, the $, the unbelievable stress our son put us through. It seems self harming to remember this but for us it is our resolve to stop the $ trail and to not do for him what he could do for himself. I also have kept a picture of the straw, baggies, etc. that I found in his room in our house to remind me that it was way past time to make him finance that lifestyle himself. I know our son pawned whatever we gave him, I do know even when we quit giving cash, ie just put gas in his car, he could then go and use his $20 for drugs. It's a long bridge we have to walk realizing when we "help" we are simply helping them kill themselves.</p><p></p><p>Great job Mom and Dad. Use this to remind you in the future-HE figured it out. Maybe he had $ he wanted/needed to use for something else and instead he had to buy a phone...welcome to adulthood.</p><p> </p><p></p><p>...and doesn't this sum it up for so many of us? Hugs to you today, to all of us who each day get up, put one foot in front of the other and continue on when we thought we couldn't. We are stronger than we think we are. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 701399, member: 20054"] Hi Colleen. I have wondered if you were "holding your own". Sounds like much progress for you. I do find getting back to or beginning new things is key to becoming mentally healthy again. Mostly I believe I have been helped by getting out of myself and becoming involved with other people and projects but I still need to do more. Getting to this point also makes me realize what a basket case I was a 8 months ago. My husband and I remind ourselves of this over and over...the lies, the $, the unbelievable stress our son put us through. It seems self harming to remember this but for us it is our resolve to stop the $ trail and to not do for him what he could do for himself. I also have kept a picture of the straw, baggies, etc. that I found in his room in our house to remind me that it was way past time to make him finance that lifestyle himself. I know our son pawned whatever we gave him, I do know even when we quit giving cash, ie just put gas in his car, he could then go and use his $20 for drugs. It's a long bridge we have to walk realizing when we "help" we are simply helping them kill themselves. Great job Mom and Dad. Use this to remind you in the future-HE figured it out. Maybe he had $ he wanted/needed to use for something else and instead he had to buy a phone...welcome to adulthood. ...and doesn't this sum it up for so many of us? Hugs to you today, to all of us who each day get up, put one foot in front of the other and continue on when we thought we couldn't. We are stronger than we think we are. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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