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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 701403" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Colleen</p><p></p><p>I think a big part of this all for any of us is accepting the way it is right now. I learned that with the help of my therapist. I have not wanted to accept my son and the way he thinks, lives, uses drugs etc.</p><p></p><p>Of course I always have hope that he will live a life he can be proud of without the constant pull of addiction. But I don't know if this will ever happen and I can't think about it or I am overwhelmed with with anxiety.</p><p></p><p>My son is sharing an apartment near the college with a 40 something year old lady he found on Craigslist. It seems this is working well. She is a nice lady. He has full use of the apartment. I am glad he didn't want to live with someone young, in some party house. We are paying his way right now but he is looking for a job that doesn't do background checks because he has a warrant in Illinois that we choose to let be for now. We give him the bare minimum. I am not sure of how hard he is looking. I think he is sober but I am not positive of this. He will take some classes in January. He knows if he screws up we will let him be homeless again. I hope he learned from that experience.</p><p></p><p>Husband is going to Florida tomorrow and son and girlfriend will stay with him for several days so we'll know for sure after that visit. Husband has no clue I am questioning his sobriety.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like all is peaceful for you right now and that is something you have to be thankful for. I know each day that is peaceful for me, I am happy for. Hang in there and enjoy the fact that everything is okay for now. I sometimes feel bad how my son lives but then realize he's probably actually okay with it and I'm the one feeling bad and that's probably the case for your son too!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 701403, member: 15032"] Colleen I think a big part of this all for any of us is accepting the way it is right now. I learned that with the help of my therapist. I have not wanted to accept my son and the way he thinks, lives, uses drugs etc. Of course I always have hope that he will live a life he can be proud of without the constant pull of addiction. But I don't know if this will ever happen and I can't think about it or I am overwhelmed with with anxiety. My son is sharing an apartment near the college with a 40 something year old lady he found on Craigslist. It seems this is working well. She is a nice lady. He has full use of the apartment. I am glad he didn't want to live with someone young, in some party house. We are paying his way right now but he is looking for a job that doesn't do background checks because he has a warrant in Illinois that we choose to let be for now. We give him the bare minimum. I am not sure of how hard he is looking. I think he is sober but I am not positive of this. He will take some classes in January. He knows if he screws up we will let him be homeless again. I hope he learned from that experience. Husband is going to Florida tomorrow and son and girlfriend will stay with him for several days so we'll know for sure after that visit. Husband has no clue I am questioning his sobriety. It sounds like all is peaceful for you right now and that is something you have to be thankful for. I know each day that is peaceful for me, I am happy for. Hang in there and enjoy the fact that everything is okay for now. I sometimes feel bad how my son lives but then realize he's probably actually okay with it and I'm the one feeling bad and that's probably the case for your son too! [/QUOTE]
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