I am Jordan, stepmother to TAD. He is 7. He has been diagnosed with-ADHD, and from what I can find out online, he seems to have oppisitional disorder. (If that is what it is called) He is, at best, contrary and unmotivated- at worst, defiant and hysterical, unmanagable. We have taken to just sitting him in a chair in his room until he calms down. We just simply do not know what else to do. He is on 56mg of concerta right now. He goes through periods where he wets his pants...sometimes 2-4 times a DAY, he wets so much at night that he fills up a night time diaper. The Dr says there is nothing physically wrong with him. The reason we do not have him in counseling...we do not have the money for it and we are pretty aware of what is 'causing' his 'stress', as it were. We just don't know how to deal with it. If there is a hard way to do something, TAD will find it and make it harder. He frustrates me to the point of anger. He is so unmotivated, that he is not even giving out Christmas gifts this year. That really makes me angry. Everyone is so centered on giving this kid a great time, but no...he can't even think outside of himself. What am I doing wrong? I just want one moment of clarity with him...where I know or feel that he's been reached. We tried him in Cub Scouts and that was a fiasco. I just don't know what to do.