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Was I wrong for pulling difficult child out of high school when she was 16?
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<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 633505" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>I'm new to all this detachment- but reading about experiences with difficult child's at school gave me pause. Am I reading my own stories here? Where when the school called I didn't even need them to tell me who they were, I knew them by VOICE. He never, even when I cried and pleaded, cared about what HIS actions did to ME. Missed work, truancy court, money for fines that I had to pay because he was a minor. Just shy of graduating. alternative school. I mean- it's all crazy. </p><p></p><p>I know it's easy to say you must do.....XYZ. I do. GuideMe, I have to co-sign about the violence. I'm glad I never had to deal with my son becoming violent with me. He punched holes in the walls. Broke things. Yelled. Screamed. Made threats. But never threatened my physical safety nor did he ever lay his hands on me. Call the police. I always told both of my kids (growing up) that if they EVER lost their minds and touched me in anger, I PROMISED the police would come and they would go to jail. I assume they believed me, because they never did it. </p><p></p><p>I didn't control any of the other stuff well- we just moved with one foot in front of the other everyday. </p><p></p><p>My son went to inpatient once for a suicide threat in the 10th grade. He was there 6 days. I felt guilty for a long time at how peaceful my home was when he was gone. Normal. No yelling, nothing. Just the daughter and I co-existing (she was in her 1st year of college still living at home), doing things. I felt guilty when I didn't sit at home and cry the whole time. I knew where he was and that he was safe. I've not had a stretch of peace like that since (and that was 6 years ago). I deserve it and so do you. My journey of waking up and figuring out how to detach from him is just beginning and it will get worse before it gets better. But I have to do it. I must. You must. Please don't let your difficult child hit or hurt you. You don't deserve that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 633505, member: 18271"] I'm new to all this detachment- but reading about experiences with difficult child's at school gave me pause. Am I reading my own stories here? Where when the school called I didn't even need them to tell me who they were, I knew them by VOICE. He never, even when I cried and pleaded, cared about what HIS actions did to ME. Missed work, truancy court, money for fines that I had to pay because he was a minor. Just shy of graduating. alternative school. I mean- it's all crazy. I know it's easy to say you must do.....XYZ. I do. GuideMe, I have to co-sign about the violence. I'm glad I never had to deal with my son becoming violent with me. He punched holes in the walls. Broke things. Yelled. Screamed. Made threats. But never threatened my physical safety nor did he ever lay his hands on me. Call the police. I always told both of my kids (growing up) that if they EVER lost their minds and touched me in anger, I PROMISED the police would come and they would go to jail. I assume they believed me, because they never did it. I didn't control any of the other stuff well- we just moved with one foot in front of the other everyday. My son went to inpatient once for a suicide threat in the 10th grade. He was there 6 days. I felt guilty for a long time at how peaceful my home was when he was gone. Normal. No yelling, nothing. Just the daughter and I co-existing (she was in her 1st year of college still living at home), doing things. I felt guilty when I didn't sit at home and cry the whole time. I knew where he was and that he was safe. I've not had a stretch of peace like that since (and that was 6 years ago). I deserve it and so do you. My journey of waking up and figuring out how to detach from him is just beginning and it will get worse before it gets better. But I have to do it. I must. You must. Please don't let your difficult child hit or hurt you. You don't deserve that. [/QUOTE]
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