After many times of taking our 19 year old son back after he would run away, we kicked him out last night. He is in a probation program (PTI). If he stays clean for a year charges will be dropped. Sat he was out until 4:00 am. Missed work Sunday due to hangover. Would not do a few things we asked him, and he said he just wants to live his life, so my husband told him to pack up and go live his life. He doesn't have a car to use until he comes home. We don't think he should come home until follows our rules and stays clean. There is so much more to this story, I am numb and exhausted right now. He is at a friends house, but my mother in law wants to take him in tomorrow night. The grandparents are the enablers. I used to be an enabler, but finally put my foot down. He doesn't have a ride to school (he just started the community college a few weeks ago). Do I pick him up and take him? He wants to go, but do I or don't I??? I want him to have an education, but I don't want to fall victim to being his enabler again. Motherhood is no picnic.