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<blockquote data-quote="UpandDown" data-source="post: 709469" data-attributes="member: 19025"><p>Pigless, I really like this perspective. I am going to work hard to reframe my thoughts on this. Because although I know I have tried very hard to help my son, I still blame myself all the time. I just always think what if, what if I had found a better school, what if what if. But he has been given so many opportunities and made terrible choices and no matter his weaknesses, he is the one making bad choices. The one lying on the couch watching you tube videos on his phone(he pays for it himself) instead of doing the little bit of school work he needs to do to graduate. He's the one that continually chooses to cope with his depression by smoking, etc etc.</p><p></p><p>Feeling Broken, you asked what to do about your son. No easy answer on that but I take away from all these responses that we can't do it for our kids. We need to not make it easy. We need to let them face the consequences on where their choices take them. For your son, I would offer him the chance to get professional help for the smoking. If he is willing to take it,then that is a huge step. If not, then he has to find his way out of the mess. So easy to say, I know! Hang in there, this forum is so helpful. I rarely give advice because I am learning too!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="UpandDown, post: 709469, member: 19025"] Pigless, I really like this perspective. I am going to work hard to reframe my thoughts on this. Because although I know I have tried very hard to help my son, I still blame myself all the time. I just always think what if, what if I had found a better school, what if what if. But he has been given so many opportunities and made terrible choices and no matter his weaknesses, he is the one making bad choices. The one lying on the couch watching you tube videos on his phone(he pays for it himself) instead of doing the little bit of school work he needs to do to graduate. He's the one that continually chooses to cope with his depression by smoking, etc etc. Feeling Broken, you asked what to do about your son. No easy answer on that but I take away from all these responses that we can't do it for our kids. We need to not make it easy. We need to let them face the consequences on where their choices take them. For your son, I would offer him the chance to get professional help for the smoking. If he is willing to take it,then that is a huge step. If not, then he has to find his way out of the mess. So easy to say, I know! Hang in there, this forum is so helpful. I rarely give advice because I am learning too! [/QUOTE]
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