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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 30274" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>Same here. For my difficult child, it's all about control, i.e he has it, we don't, and he's going to make sure we know about it. The quickest way to make sure something <strong>doesn't</strong> get done is to tell him to do it.</p><p></p><p>His therapist calls it "reflexive rebellion", and for my poor difficult child it truly has become a reflex, much like Tourets. He "reflexes" before he knows what he's doing; and then, if he finds himself in a bad place because of his reaction, he fights even harder to keep from "looking stupid" or losing the upper hand.</p><p></p><p>Sad but true story is that I was the same way for most of my life. It wasn't until I was diagnosis and Rx for ADD and took martial arts that I learned how to counter that reflex in myself. I guess now I'm suffering from the dreaded "Mother's Curse": <em>"may your children grow up to plague you in the same manner you've plagued me".</em>, or, the more modern version: <em>"I hope you have kids that act just like you!"</em></p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 30274, member: 3579"] Same here. For my difficult child, it's all about control, i.e he has it, we don't, and he's going to make sure we know about it. The quickest way to make sure something [b]doesn't[/b] get done is to tell him to do it. His therapist calls it "reflexive rebellion", and for my poor difficult child it truly has become a reflex, much like Tourets. He "reflexes" before he knows what he's doing; and then, if he finds himself in a bad place because of his reaction, he fights even harder to keep from "looking stupid" or losing the upper hand. Sad but true story is that I was the same way for most of my life. It wasn't until I was diagnosis and Rx for ADD and took martial arts that I learned how to counter that reflex in myself. I guess now I'm suffering from the dreaded "Mother's Curse": [i]"may your children grow up to plague you in the same manner you've plagued me".[/i], or, the more modern version: [i]"I hope you have kids that act just like you!"[/i] Mikey [/QUOTE]
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