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We don't know what to do 22 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 663579" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I would try hard to not call or text again for the time being. All of the solutions are for him to find. There is nothing more to do to help him.</p><p>This is very hard. I know.</p><p></p><p>The thing is this: You know that you do not hold any solutions to whatever his despair is. That essentially supporting him, you could not help him one bit. The solutions are in him. He needs to decide to get treatment or to live in a way that strengthens him rather than degrades him.</p><p></p><p>The choice is his.</p><p></p><p>I am having a very hard time, too. Because I fear that my son may lack the capacity to change.</p><p></p><p>How will the rest of my life be then? Watching my son sleeping on one couch after another? Never working. Never enough money to finish the month. One loony conspiracy theory after another.</p><p></p><p>How can I go about my life, when my son is suffering?</p><p></p><p>And I am finding the answer. Dignity.</p><p></p><p>It will never, ever be the right thing to let my son degrade me or to break me. It will never be the right thing for me to fall, because he has fallen. And the same is true for you.</p><p></p><p>Human dignity in the face of suffering. </p><p></p><p>Dignity is a big enough word to stand alone. I will choose that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 663579, member: 18958"] I would try hard to not call or text again for the time being. All of the solutions are for him to find. There is nothing more to do to help him. This is very hard. I know. The thing is this: You know that you do not hold any solutions to whatever his despair is. That essentially supporting him, you could not help him one bit. The solutions are in him. He needs to decide to get treatment or to live in a way that strengthens him rather than degrades him. The choice is his. I am having a very hard time, too. Because I fear that my son may lack the capacity to change. How will the rest of my life be then? Watching my son sleeping on one couch after another? Never working. Never enough money to finish the month. One loony conspiracy theory after another. How can I go about my life, when my son is suffering? And I am finding the answer. Dignity. It will never, ever be the right thing to let my son degrade me or to break me. It will never be the right thing for me to fall, because he has fallen. And the same is true for you. Human dignity in the face of suffering. Dignity is a big enough word to stand alone. I will choose that. [/QUOTE]
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